relationships.

[David A]

Don't be trying to be sexy BE SEXY post a picture PROVING you're that sexy(nerdy) a bag of dice and some D&D books would be sufficient (but you might have to include a scan of a character sheet) Possibly pictures of you at a renaissance fair or with a book on quantum physics or math. Just don't put on your glasses (if you have any) we don't need porn on here.

What the hell? Dude, I don't need to meet you in real life to see you're creepy.

 

[monkeykoder]

What the hell? Dude, I don't need to meet you in real life to see you're creepy.

What is so creepy bout that?

 

[Joves]

See you have proven to me that I have been right in never marrying. He kind of sounds like a worthless leech to me. What you need to take a good six months and, just go out and, have fun. Otherwise dont get in to another relationship till then.

 

[Dmitri]

And by exhausted, I mean this is the 7th time in the last year he has broken up with me. Usually it ends with name calling and then he comes back after a week with empty promises. It's been two weeks and I just would rather not hear from him again. He scares me. I never know what he's going to say to me.

So it took you 8 times to get it (this year!), and even then it was his choice and not yours. I'm trying very hard not to be rude here, but sometimes people make their own misery.

Make better choices in the future, you'll have better outcomes.

 

[iflynething]

and Edward is a character in a series of books I was reading. haha. I'm a nerd.

I bet it's Twilight

My sister read that book and me and my mom and sister watched that movie. It was fantastic

~Michael~

 

[rhall54]

So it took you 8 times to get it (this year!), and even then it was his choice and not yours. I'm trying very hard not to be rude here, but sometimes people make their own misery.

Make better choices in the future, you'll have better outcomes.

Unfortunately, yes. He was very manipulative. I loved him very much. So when he came back to me saying how much he loved me and explaining why he had left( making it seem reasonable), I wanted to believe him. And I wanted it to work, so I trusted him. He even bought a promise ring once, and being a stupid girl, i thought that meant something. Apparently not, because 3 weeks later he took it back and said it was a lie.

It's just all very confusing to me because I could never lie to someone like that. I could never tell someone that I love them if I didn't mean it. He watched me go through so much pain, I just don't get how I was so blinded or how a person could be okay hurting another person like that.

 

[rhall54]

I bet it's Twilight

My sister read that book and me and my mom and sister watched that movie. It was fantastic

~Michael~

Yes it is Twilight! :heart:

 

[monkeykoder]

Sadly in the end only you know what is truly going on. Try to make yourself happy (without hurting anyone).

 

[Diddy2theJJ]

Hey rhall54, I know I'm coming into this a little late, but I understand where you are at as well. Relationships are so complex and can often seem overwhelming. The only bit of advice I can give you is to just give it time and let the universe figure things out for you.

The way I get through tough situations is to find something to be thankful for.....and the more things you find the better! I'm sure you have grown so much more than you even realize in this relationship. Try and be thankful for that and take that with you and leave all the rest behind and move on. Also being thankful for anything helps.....even if it's little things like a green light in the morning on the way to work.....or your favorite pen

And, even though it's hard and it takes time, forgiving always helps too. I'm also glad to talk if you need someone else to talk to....I've helped alot of friends through relationship problems!

I have a piece of art that I created after an end to one of my relationships that I'll try and find and post on here too......

You are young and beautiful and have lots of time for relationships. Try and enjoy the time on your own or with friends for now and let the relationship side of things take care of itself. Good luck!

 

[Diddy2theJJ]

I'm not sure if this helps at all.......but it makes me feel better every time I read it

MSN Messenger: [email protected]

 

[rhall54]

Diddy- Thank you.

Yes there are a lot of things I am thankful for. And I'm not really sad, I guess, since he kind of gradually did this. I'm more just losing hope in people. All around me I see friends who lie to their boyfriends/girlfriends and spouses. It's just so scary to think that people can be so cruel. And even more scary to know that it was happening to me and I had all the faith in the world that this guy was being honest. I know better now, but it just makes me wonder how many good people there really are out there...

 

[Diddy2theJJ]

I sometimes feel like that too.....like when did people stop caring about other people. Sometimes it feels like everyone is just out for themselves and don't care about telling the truth anymore or think about the consequences of their actions or how it really affects the lives of others.

The sad part is, is that when it happens to people like us who try our hardest to be that perfect partner or at least be the best that we can be, and it doesn't work out it seems to put a damper on that part of us. It almost feels like it makes me not want to try as hard since nobody else is trying......even though that doesn't help anything!

It's kind of a mystery to me.....some people will do anything for love and once they find it (or think they have) they don't want it anymore and let it go to waste.

I tend to find myself looking all over for that right person in my life. Sometimes looking so hard that I'm missing so many fun moments that are right in front of me.

So lately I have been trying really hard to just enjoy where I'm at in life and I figure when the time is right for that special someone it will just happen

 

[iflynething]

Yes it is Twilight! :heart:

~Michael~

 

[craig]

Completely natural response to a broken heart. Key is too never give up on love. It is the force that moves the universe and believe it or not your inner being.

Love & Bass

 

[bradster76]

Well, Rhall seems a lot of us are fukup magnets. My current GF is wonderful, we spend time doing everything together, connect spiritually, and physically, and love each other.

But in the midst of all that, the universe is chaotic and neutral. We go by rules, structure and ediquite but nothing else but man does. We expect things to go by these standards and play along/follow suit but it never happens.

I am one the "nice guys", but hell; we are all nice guys...right? I am until somone threatens me...then there's trouble. That's besides the point. ...sorry, rambling again...:lmao:


In a relationship, we look for trust, love, companionship, intimantcy, blah, blah, blah. I think the problem you had here is the fact you GAVE too much of yourself. You won't get anywhere with someone if you give a lot. I've learned that the hard way, myself. I (and my GF) am not a people person, and also have a VERY low tolerance for society and large groups near me for more than 15-20 mins. But, when I met Michelle, I discovered she is the only one that can be around me, sleep beside me at night, do things for each other, etc. We can practically read each other's minds. BUT the reason I feel we found each other is due to the fact it was all natural. I was not looking for any woman to date again. Ever. She wasn't looking for a man.

We crossed paths, talked, and let it take it's own course from there. Yah we give each other stuff, do the little things that matter...but nothing big. None of that big stuff matters. It's how you feel and give emotionally to the other person. And as far as trust goes, I typically laugh at the idea. But I found myself trusting her. Why? Because we don't TRY to keep eachother happy, it just happens. I am happy when we are together, when I think of her. We both have our issues like anyone else, but they work out.

Believe me, I never thought I'd ever find anyone again, and neither did she. But good things happen when you least expect them. As humans, we naturally prepare ourselves for disaster. That's why we try too hard sometimes. As humans, we are very strong adaptivly in both physical and mental senses. We just don't know our individual strengths and limitations. If we didn't expect or prepare for disasters or problems, we would never adapt as well.

Give it time and don't go looking for another mate. Let it happen. Somethings we can control and most we can't. People like your ex are the kinds that prey on the weak willed, and the kind. They take advantage of that due to them being weaker. Be strong, and learn from the petty tyrants in our lives. For they teach us.