you need to hire somebody you'll feel comfortable with (male or female.. not sure). You need a contract that says that the photographer will ERASE everything when you have the product. Mohamein does a lot of studio photos.. I dont.
This is partially right and partially not. Finding someone that you're feeling comfortable is a big thing. Erasing the images - not so much. I do several hundred boudoir and dudoir sessions a year and archive for a period of time. My clients are grateful as they know that they can come back during that time for extra prints or albums. My reputation is sterling and never EVER have I had problems with images making their way to the internet or public without me posting it to my blog or site WITH a signed model release by the client. No release, no one outside of my studio and lab ever see the images.
usmcvma - if you're interested, I'll be in San Antonio in January speaking at the Digital Wedding Forum Convention and will be available for a very limited number of sessions.