You have to consider that most people in your area probably don't have real snow tires. These things do make a difference. I drove one rural road recently before I changed from all-weather to winter, after a snowfall, and even with careful driving, it was difficult to keep a line on curves and stop when you wanted to. Same road, with winter tires, and under similar conditions - huge difference in control and ability to stop. Of course, if people people drive in the passing lane at 20 mph, then they deserve the vitriol they get.
No - we just can't handle the stuff. We really are a southern city and don't get that much snow. Our counties run out of salt before the season is over; our schools decide to open, then decide to close while many of the kids are still in transit; and when we decide to close things (government offices) early due to weather, we close them all at the same time so everyone can play in the same slushbox at the same time.
It could always be worse--you could live in my neck of the woods when it starts to snow! DC drivers are "old pros" at it compared to the majority of Knoxvillians.
And, I'll admit it, I am one of the snow weanies--I don't really like driving anyway, and I HATE to drive in the snow. As soon as it starts sticking to the road, I want to be at home and STAY at home.
But, in my defense, I do just that instead of contributing to the problems with all the rest of the snowdiots on the road (that's idiots in the snow, in case you missed it...).
My brother and my sister don't mind driving in it, so I can always get one of them to pick me up if I really need to do something (OR I can take the bus, if they're running!).