Is it? I run into very few situations where I find that so. Have you ever used an incident light meter? Reflective meters (like in cameras) measure tones in the scene. Incident meters measure light. Using an incident meter may give you a different perception of light.
A great reason to learn to estimate exposure with your own eyes. It's not as hard as you think. The instant feedback of digital cameras make it easy to practice. Start with sunny 16, then check out Fred Parker's site
http://www.fredparker.com/ultexp1.htm
Modes and meters don't matter except in photo geek gab sessions. Accurate exposure is what matters. Modes and meters may help you estimate exposure more accurately. Any shame for using P or pride for using M will be completely forgotten and the photo will be judged on it's own merits as it's being viewed. Not how it was created.
Then don't use M or whatever. Use the tools, techniques, and materials that bring you enjoyment and success. It doesn't matter what works for me or anyone else; it just matters what works for you.
If someone pulls some sort of condescending attitude because you aren't shooting in M, or RAW, or with film, or with prime lenses, or with medium format, or with cool brand name gear realize that they have to do this to get attention because they aren't proud of their own photos. If their photos were any good they could just kick back and say "Look at my work. I rock your world!" instead of trying to make you feel small because of the gear/techniques/materials you use. Don't fall for it.