I'm more of a guest and helping out with the pictures, my wife was part of the bridal shower thats why. No pressure on my side but I want to take this opportunity as a event to practice on at the same time and hopefully get to get decent shots. So from what I gather, try with program, see how it looks with bounch flash and see the results? Any other advice? And yes I agree practice practice practice.
Always wondered if its better to not use external flash and just bump up iso and shoot with aperture priority or manual as I'm more experienced with this set up.
We assume the automatic modes are "smart", and yes, they do know one or two important things that beginners may not have learned yet (sync speed, etc), but "smart" is not the right word. In general, computers are dumb about common sense. The human brain is the best photographic tool there is.
Camera P mode with flash, indoors in more dim light where we need flash, will ALWAYS use 1/60 second at probably f/4 (at lower ISO values).
The 1/60 second is just a Minimum shutter speed (it is NOT a correct shutter speed), simply because we are using flash (shutter speed does not affect the faster flash), and so we don't need the 1/4 second that the dim ambient probably actually meters - we are using flash instead. I am making up that it will meter 1/4 second with the flash turned off, but it is not untypical (indoors where flash is needed) - so near that. If 1/4 second is the right number we actually see (if we reach up and turn the flash off), that means with flash on, 1/60 second says the ambient is four stops underexposed. It is NOT a correct exposure for the ambient, which turning off the flash power shows to be 1/4 second (for example). So... the word smart is not appropriate.
The f/4 is because the light is dim (indoors where we need flash) and so the lens goes wide open trying to help. Except P Mode will not go fully wide open, P mode has a maximum aperture with flash. Camera models vary, external flash is normally f/4 or f/5 (internal flash is probably f/2.8 Maximum). But it will always be this value (indoors where flash is needed). Exception: I am speaking of ISO 100. In P mode with flash, high ISO will stop the lens down 1/2 stop more for every stop of ISO increase (a metering issue, but counterproductive to our dim light tries). But if ISO is high enough (more than the four stops higher), it could allow further metering changes.
So with external flash, and assuming ISO 100, P mode will always be 1/60 second and f/4, thereabouts, in every indoor flash picture you will ever take. Is that smart? I am NOT saying it is bad or dumb. It is very workable and not a bad try. I am just differentiating from "smart". Computers do what they do.
It is more common to use camera M mode for INDOOR flash, so that we can specify any shutter speed and any aperture and any ISO that we deem useful - for whatever purpose experience teaches us. The TTL flash is still automatic, and the flash is not affected by shutter speed, but ambient is, and this shutter choice can choose if to capture the ambient, or to shut it out (again, mixed lighting is really tough on white balance, there is no correct setting for two White Balances). However, this extra concern may be a bit much for a Day One experience. Said another way though, if P mode always sets 1/60 second and f/4, our setting the same values in M mode is exactly the same thing. Then we might choose to change it a little for some purpose.
Outdoors, fill flash in bright sun, it is impossible to ignore the strong ambient, and camera mode P becomes much more useful (because it knows about sync speed).