From my own personal experience , unless you're involved with the wedding industry it is very rare to have a groom who is not part of the industry and also understands the details of a wedding. It's a different mentality. Do you want rustic wooden cross back chairs or shiny Mahogany fold up chairs? Why fresh flowers by the alter and not fake ones? charger plates or no charger plates? As a former groom myself, I can totally relate. As a photographer, I can only do so much to make something look good. If your suit pants are longer than a full break, you're not going to look good in photo. Same with if your suit jacket doesn't fit properly. Being one of the very few male photographers in an industry dominated by female vendors, I know the stereotype well and I totally use it to my advantage. But back to the subject, whenever I receive an email inquiry from a groom I don't treat it any differently. However, I know that I would lose that client based on statistics of my own business. So, talking to someone in person is completely different than online ads. You want the statistics to be in your favor to maximize your investment. I also have a very specific targeted audience that I go after, down to hair length. It's nothing personal. It's business.