I think monicam has always been a boy, all along, and I never took monicam for a girl.
I don't think it is the name "Monica" that hides in his screen name, but "cam" for "Camera" ... and then we do / did (he no longer posts) have a member from Bangladesh whose name is "Moni" and that is absolutely a boy's name in his country and stressed on the "i", I would think, and therefore I have always thought our very "monicam" here is another "Moni" with a "Camera", maybe?
Now it is up to you, monicam, to put things right for us once and for all.
Is your avatar your self-portrait (as I have always thought it is)? And are you a boy, but, according to your lesbian girl-friend, "effeminate enough" so she can imagine to be with you, too? (This whole situation I find more confusing than anything, though).