To me, depth of field is more like "how thin do I want the 'wall of focus' (as I think of it) to be?". Trying to figure out in my head 'this f-stop at this distance, etc', is more than I want to think about when shooting.
Obviously, when doing landscapes, cityscapes, and trains (my other big hobby), it's usually daylight and therefore I'm shooting at smaller f-stops (higher f numbers) to keep ISO and shutter speed in the 'reasaonable' range. Practically everything is in focus as a result.
Indoors, where I do most of my shooting these days, I'm thinking "do I want more DOF or less DOF?". Knowing that my 135mm lens, wide open at f2, with a subject about 20' away will be a very, very thin DOF (and produce either stunning results or missed-focus trash), and probably the thinnest I can produce with the lenses in my bag, simply stopping down will produce more DOF. So I'm thinking 'do I want everybody/everything in focus or not?'. It's a subjective call, and I sometimes take multiple shots at various aperture/shutter combinations, just to make sure I get what I want in focus. I don't want to have to stop, do some mental gymnastics (or on a cellphone app), then set up and take the shot. That's a sure fire formula to miss 'the shot'. I recently had occassion to take what I consider the best shot of my 50+ years behind a lens. It was very low-light, spur-of-the moment, no-setup, no-pre-thought, simply aim and click with whatever settings I had in the camera. A second later, 'the shot' was gone forever. 7-8 feet away, 135mm at f2.2, ISO 5000, no flash. DOF is roughly 1-2 inches.
Indoors, flash/no flash photography is a continual challenge with the exposure triangle. My biggest concerns are 'fast enough to stop mine and subject movement' and proper exposure...or close enough exposure that I can fix it in Lightroom. Sometimes I'll intentionally shoot with a slower shutter to get a subjects' arm motions, etc. Sometimes I have no other choice but to shoot slow due to lens aperture and/or ISO & noise considerations. What tradeoffs am I willing to make to get the settings I want, to get the shot as I want it?
Bottom line, unless my primary goal in a series of shots is to have a thin DOF to get subject separation and great bokeh, my shooting is more aimed at getting the desired exposure with DOF wide enough to capture the entire 'setting', or group of people, all in focus. Simply by keeping my aperture somewhere in the middle of the range for whatever lens I have mounted and being about 30 feet away accomplishes this. Note, too, that most lenses have their sharpest focus somewhere in the midrange of their aperture limits.