Thanks for the info guys.
I thought it was just the built in flash that sucked but my father gave me his external flash to use and I don't seem to get much more out of it.
It isn't new by any standards, but It was probably worth a few bucks when it was new maybe 15 years ago, maybe a bit more.
There are a bunch of settings on it, and I don't really know how they effect the flash. There is no manual for it anymore.
The problems I seem to be havin are that the photo's seem way to harsh or not bright at all. Things just don't look realistic.
I have a friend who is a photographer and she uses her flash on pretty much everything she shoots, and nothing looks harsh. I tried aiming it up like I see her do all the time and the top half of my pix are bright and the bottom half are dark
Is a light diffuser a must?
Everything I'm going to talk about is about using the flash off camera. A setup can be purchased for cheap and getting the flash off camera is a must in order to acheive the look you see from probably most other good photographs that use a flash.
We'll start with soft vs. hard. A light diffuser is not a must, but knowing the difference between soft light and hard light and knowing what you want in a photo is needed to get the results desired.
Hard:
Soft:
The photo with the hard light was done with a flash with no diffuser. The light source is small; it's the size of the flash head. A small light source creates a hard light. Hard light is characterized by the hard and sharply defined edges on the shadows. You can really bring out texture this way, but you can also show flaws that you wouldn't see with a hard light. Hard light is not the enemy. It can be used effectively. It just usually looks like crap when you get a hard light from an on axis light source like a pop up flash.
Soft light requires a large light source. A diffuser catches the light and spreads it out creating a large light source. Soft light creates sof shadow edges. There were several lights used in the second photo, but the main light is one off camera speed light with a shoot through umbrella, creating the nice soft light with barely any shadow on the subject.
As for taking a picture with the flash and having half of the image dark, that really sounds like you have too high of a shutter speed. Most cameras have a maximum sync speed (also shown as "x sync") with which they can produce an image that is completely illuminated by the flash. Most DSLRs are at about 1/160-1/250 for the x sync. Your camera's manual will tell you what the x sync for your camera is. If you are shooting with a flash faster than the x sync of the camera a black line will appear where the shutter is cutting off the flash exposure.
Another less likely reason you're getting the hlaf exposed photos would be light fall off. Your flash would have to be very very weak for this to happen though. Post some examples for a definite answer.
What camera and what flash do you own. Getting a cheap set of triggers, a light stand, adapter, and umbrella could run you as little as $95 for everything.