Firstly, the last thing to consider when purchasing a camera is "feel".
What should be considered is Image Quality and Accessories.
Accessories:
When you buy a SLR you are purchasing a camera system. Make sure that the manufacturer makes the accessories which will allow to photograph your desires. (i.e. macro, infra-red and astro photography are a specialty which all manufacturers do not address as well as other manufacturers)
Fast lenses for low light photography is another item which many/some camera makers may fall short. The giants in digital, Nikon and Canon make more lenses and associated hardware than any other company ... but if you have a speciality ... make sure you check it out.
Generally, if you are not willing to add accessories you will probably be better off with an advanced P&S.
Image Quality (IQ):
Do your homework and see which camera in the price range you can afford has the best Image Quality. There is much more to IQ than just MPs. Sensor size and sensor type are significant factors effecting IQ. Most/all SLRs with a minimum of 8MP, shooting under ISO 400 will NOT have a significant difference in IQ up to an 8x10 (from the cheapest Canon, Nikon, Sony, Olympus, et al to the most expensive 1Ds and D3 ... you won't be able to separate inexpensibe from expensive).
At elevated ISO's of 800+ the CCD sensors are noted to all go to hell with noise to the point that the image is not acceptable. CMOS will deliver the highest IQ with the least noise at an elevated ISO.
So if you plan to shoot in low light situations without flash (indoors, evening/nighttime street shooting), I strongly suggest a CMOS sensor. I'm not familar with Sony, but with Nikon and Canon ... only the most expensive Nikons come with CMOS (D90 and up) ... all Canon cameras are equipped with CMOS.
Feel:
Believe me, all modern cameras take the human hand into account when developing a design. Most people will easily adapt from one maker to another quite easily. Camera IQ and camera accessories can/will affect the final photograph ... feel will not. All else being equal, then yeah use feel as a criteria, but make it you last and least important criteria.
Besides, once the viewfinder reaches the eye, the only feel you should have in in the end of your shutter release finger.
Gary