Maybe they didn't know to ask. Just because you have 4 weddings online doesn't mean you didn't shoot 8. Maybe they think your promotional usage is opt-in. I would. I wouldn't expect my commissioned work to be used to promote you.
As someone who isn't in the photography industry, and who has never hired a photographer for anything...I still know that it's common for photographers to own the rights to any photos taken. The fact that it's also in writing in the signed contract should really mean that they knew everything before hand...if they didn't read the contract then maybe they'll start reading things they sign from now on.
Now, I didn't say they didn't own the rights. I was referring to commercial usage of clients' likenesses. And as I said, I wouldn't hire someone who wants to use me for free advertising. And perhaps these people didnt know better at the time.
Im not sure whether your are in the photography business or not, but just you know...we don't use people as "free advertising".
heres the breakdown. you see, what happens is, if you want "full" rights to your photos (whereas the photographer does not use them), thats perfectly fine. I have no problem with that at all.
that comes at a price though. like many luxury items, some people are willing to pay for it. now, suppose you want a discount, and you say "hey Jason, how
can I get my wedding photographed by you a little cheaper?" and I say, "no problem, I got just the thing. you let me use your photos in my portfolio as advertising, and I will discount your wedding/portrait package by XX amount". The client either thinks that is a grand idea and saves some money, OR, they want their photos kept private and they pay a premium amount. whichever way it goes, it gets typed up into the contract as per what the client wants. typically, the client READS the contract, AGREES with what is on it, (or they say something and we work it out) and they SIGN it. everyone's happy.
so you see, you are NOT "free" advertising for me. I give you a discounted rate in exchange for advertising rights, or you pay full price and retain the photos yourself.