Help! My soon to be wife is uncomfortable with me shooting Nude art

[IByte]

Did I miss something? Why wouldn't you marry a Dr.?

Not me, bringing that fungus home...

 

[manaheim]

As I woman, I would also have a problem with my hubby shooting nude females (and I also wouldn't care to marry a doctor, for that matter ). My husband and I dated seven years before getting married and he knew about my 'jealous tendencies' from the start and it's something that we both have worked on. They have never been a problem, because we know how to work together. But there will always be things I am not ok with- him working with naked girls is one if them... Art, profession, any reason.

No one is perfect. You will never find the perfect person, but you can find someone perfect for you. She may not be it. If you not willing to change your art form up a bit for her, and she's not willing to try to be a bit more understanding of your work, maybe it's time to move on.

I didn't read all of the replies, so you may have remedied the problem already but this is just my two cents. Good luck!

That was... very maturely put.

Where's the "kinda surprised, was expecting a train wreck, now need to applaud" emoticon?

:albino: oh my god there's a ****ing bunny icon. That's it. I'm done.

 

[CaptainNapalm]

I don't want to sound harsh but I think it's her that should make the adjustment and learn to deal with her feelings and you continue doing what you've been doing for years. It would be different if she opposed to this when she met you giving you a chance to decide what to do then but to support you up until now and three weeks befor the wedding being not okay with it is just NOT cool. I'd let her get over it but that's just me.

 

[gsgary]

Dump her if she is not happy withit

Hey Gary... How did you make out in the 2012 Humanitarian of the Year Awards anyway?

Came last

 

[gsgary]

Let's be honest...he's never going to call off this wedding w/ it only 3 weeks away. He's in for the long haul.

I would say he is in for hell she is telling him what he can and cant do

 

[runnah]

I can think of anything to say that wont make me sound like a chauvinist.

 

[imagemaker46]

If it is your profession, and she knows what you do for a living and she has a problem with it now, she will always have a problem with it. Some wives or girlfriends understand the business and will always support you, through thick and thin, it is in their nature to trust you. Some will never understand, and it is their nature to not trust, unless you give them reason not to. A relationship based on suspicion is doomed from day one. It seems your future wife falls into the world of suspicion.

You have to make a choice, you want to be a photographer without restriction on what you can shoot, or, you shoot what she wants you to shoot.

My gut feeling, you'll hand her your balls.

 

[runnah]

My gut feeling, you'll hand her your balls.

If it has gotten this far, he already has.

But you're right. My wife will support me no matter what. More so if it is my profession or passion. Even if I came home tomorrow and said I wanted to quit my job and be a trapeze artist, she be with me. Of course she might point out that is dislike heights, being inverted and tights, but she'd still support me.

The OP has a dented can.

 

[IByte]

I can think of anything to say that wont make me sound like a chauvinist.

No worries I did that for ya lol.

 

[imagemaker46]

My wife has supported me for 32 years, and it hasn't been easy for her, but she also knew from day one what I did. Over the years the job has changed from rags to ritches and back again, on and off. I've been a dickhead more times than I can remember, but she has always supported the path I chose. I shot a strippers portfolio a few years back and she wanted to see the pictures, she likes to see everything I shoot, and be part of my profession, not oppose it. I know that I am lucky in many ways, and tell her that.

We share my balls...

 

[mishele]

We share my balls...

That is soo sweet.

 

[table1349]

Have your bride to be watch this. If she laughs you have a chance. If not you have a long road ahead of you. FYI. Not Safe For Work!

 

[Parker219]

I think you should post a link to your pics, so we can judge if they are classy enough for her to be cool with it.

 

[TCampbell]

Here's the solution: Tell her you're gay and that all those naked women mean NOTHING to you!

I'm sure that'll put her fears to rest about you shooting nude women. :mrgreen:



On a more serious note...

Is this seriously *just* coming up for the first time 3 weeks before the wedding? You've never had any indication that she's been uncomfortable with this before now? My concerns about this is that it's an indication of trust levels which are certainly not healthy for someone who plans on getting married. Have you either made comments or behaved in a way that should cause her to doubt that shooting nudes is anything more than a line of work?

Basically what I'm reading is someone wants to get married to someone that they don't entirely trust... and that, for some reason, they seem to be under the impression that if you change your line of work, you'd be more trustworthy. But here's the reality... there are plenty of cheating men who do NOT shoot nudes for a living. Not shooting nudes is NOT going to make a cheating man honest. If she doesn't trust you, then she shouldn't marry you -- whether you shoot nudes has nothing to do with it.

 

[Josh66]

She knew you did this as a profession and fine art for the last year. I don't see why she couldn't deal with it when you're married. Seems silly to me if she had a year to think about this.

Some girls get kind of crazy when they get a ring on their finger. Not really sure why, but something happens to them, lol.

I don't understand it, but I have seen it happen a lot. Something just changes when they get that ring...