Hey guys! So it was pretty simple. Took Reznap's advice.
-Basically google "bokeh texture" and copy it to a new layer.
-Take the image you want to work with and place the bokeh layer on top of it.
-Then you can either leave it as "normal" or "lighten" blend. Either will work. I also changed the opacity till I saw it looked right. Play with it.
- Layer mask the bokeh layer
- Fill it with WHITE so it doesn't then
- take a large paint brush in BLACK with total softness then paint over the area you want to show w/out the bokeh effect
- THAT'S IT!
As far as the color, well that's a whole different thing. You can play with different things in photoshop to see what you like. Also I did "skin smooth" for the original image. It's pretty much the same thing mentioned above, except, instead of a new bokeh layer, you create a duplicate layer and then pick "surface blur" (and yes I like that better than gaussian blur)
Good luck! Post your results!