"If You Don't Like It, Don't Look!"

[jwbryson1]

Let's cut to the chase. If the woman is hot, she should be able to whip them out any where, any time, any place.

Oh, c'mon. I kid...

 

[MTVision]

I never said you said that women don't have to be considerate any more than anyone on this thread OR the other one said they should have to go into a bathroom stall.

THAT is what I mean by you embarking on desk-pounding drama. You're adding drama where there isn't any.

People do this in discussions a lot... they somehow leap to some conclusion about what the other person is stating (or implying) when the didn't say any such thing. Then they then use that argument as a "how dare you" and throw it back in the person's face.

It's the equivelent of...

Person 1: "Look at this picture. It's funny."
Person 2: "How dare you deny the person their rights to do X!"
Person 1: "Errr... what?"

I suppose it was silly for me to try to discuss this reasonably.

Good luck with it.

"Megan, what you seem to be missing is that it's not about laws, it's about some measure of consideration for others who might not be totally comfortable with what you're doing."

all it did was reiterate what I had already said about women and heir consideration for others - in response to you saying that I was missing the point. What the hell in my post was unreasonable?

Yeah - nobody else said anything about a bathroom stall. I said it obviously. My opinion. Fist-pounding drama right?

 

[GeorgieGirl]

No drama...Just some healthy male chest beating, me thinks....

 

[manaheim]

I never said you said that women don't have to be considerate any more than anyone on this thread OR the other one said they should have to go into a bathroom stall.

THAT is what I mean by you embarking on desk-pounding drama. You're adding drama where there isn't any.

People do this in discussions a lot... they somehow leap to some conclusion about what the other person is stating (or implying) when the didn't say any such thing. Then they then use that argument as a "how dare you" and throw it back in the person's face.

It's the equivelent of...

Person 1: "Look at this picture. It's funny."
Person 2: "How dare you deny the person their rights to do X!"
Person 1: "Errr... what?"

I suppose it was silly for me to try to discuss this reasonably.

Good luck with it.

"Megan, what you seem to be missing is that it's not about laws, it's about some measure of consideration for others who might not be totally comfortable with what you're doing."

all it did was reiterate what I had already said about women and heir consideration for others - in response to you saying that I was missing the point. What the hell in my post was unreasonable?

Yeah - nobody else said anything about a bathroom stall. I said it obviously. My opinion. Fist-pounding drama right?

Well, um, yeah... it does kinda toss some gasoline on the fire.


BTW, you caught my response mid-edit. Please read it again.

 

[paigew]

Wow, seriously!!! I am so sad to hear you guys talk like this I mean come on, this forum is the one that got all excited about the new nutity section, no?? I breastfed my daughter for 15 months and am currently breastfeeding my 9 month son. I am sure that most of Austin has seen my boobs. Yes, I feed my kid when he is hungry. I take my boob out of my shirt where ever I am and feed him. I do not use a cover, its already 95 degrees here. Plus, using a cover is a PITA. Being offended by that is offensive. Boobs are made to feed babies. The human race wouldn't be in existance without breasts. Sheesh people. Get over it! I feel offended when I see a sweet newborn baby sitting in a bouncer seat with a bottle shoved in her mouth. Babies deserve the loving connection of breastfeeding, not to mention the health benifits. Babies crave the boob, they are born to find the boob! Within minutes of birth if placed on the mothers tummy they will wiggle themselves up to the boob all on their own. So yes, I get saddened (not 'offended') by seeing babies be bottlefed, but I would never say anything to a bottle feeding mother. Feeding our children is our business. Whether its via bottle, boob, or mcdonalds. Breastfeeding should be celebrated, photographed, and normalized.

 

[paigew]

and serioulsy, how selfish are we as a human race that we would rather a baby scream out with hunger pains than to 'allow' a woman to breastfeed her baby in line at the checkout? Screw the baby, I don't want to see that? Serioulsy? WE are the adults.

 

[jwbryson1]

I am sure that most of Austin has seen my boobs.

I am not "offended" by seeing a woman breastfeeding. My wife breast fed our 2 kids for over a year, sometimes in public when necessary. But, what's wrong with using a cover just to be discrete? I see nothing wrong with this.

 

[paigew]

I suppose I could dig through my diaper bag and try to find my cover (if I remembered to bring it). Put it on and get baby latched while standing in the checkout line trying to pay without slowing down other people behind me. WHILE trying to keep my 2 year old from grabbing candy off the shelfs (even though she is in the shopping basket strapped in). While holding said (hungry) baby....sure, I'll get right on that for you.


or...I could grab screaming baby, stick him on the boob and be out of the store in 3 minutes leaving the easily offended shoppers to finish without the background noise of my kids hungry/frustrated/mad cries

 

[manaheim]

I suppose I could dig through my diaper bag and try to find my cover (if I remembered to bring it). Put it on and get baby latched while standing in the checkout line trying to pay without slowing down other people behind me. WHILE trying to keep my 2 year old from grabbing candy off the shelfs (even though she is in the shopping basket strapped in). While holding said (hungry) baby....sure, I'll get right on that for you.


or...I could grab screaming baby, stick him on the boob and be out of the store in 3 minutes leaving the easily offended shoppers to finish without the background noise of my kids hungry/frustrated/mad cries

and serioulsy, how selfish are we as a human race that we would rather a baby scream out with hunger pains than to 'allow' a woman to breastfeed her baby in line at the checkout? Screw the baby, I don't want to see that? Serioulsy? WE are the adults.

Wow, seriously!!! I am so sad to hear you guys talk like this I mean come on, this forum is the one that got all excited about the new nutity section, no?? I breastfed my daughter for 15 months and am currently breastfeeding my 9 month son. I am sure that most of Austin has seen my boobs. Yes, I feed my kid when he is hungry. I take my boob out of my shirt where ever I am and feed him. I do not use a cover, its already 95 degrees here. Plus, using a cover is a PITA. Being offended by that is offensive. Boobs are made to feed babies. The human race wouldn't be in existance without breasts. Sheesh people. Get over it! I feel offended when I see a sweet newborn baby sitting in a bouncer seat with a bottle shoved in her mouth. Babies deserve the loving connection of breastfeeding, not to mention the health benifits. Babies crave the boob, they are born to find the boob! Within minutes of birth if placed on the mothers tummy they will wiggle themselves up to the boob all on their own. So yes, I get saddened (not 'offended') by seeing babies be bottlefed, but I would never say anything to a bottle feeding mother. Feeding our children is our business. Whether its via bottle, boob, or mcdonalds. Breastfeeding should be celebrated, photographed, and normalized.

Well, and there you have it.

I mean ... you pretty claearly stated that you can't be bothered to cover up or move off to a more discreet location. The people around you will just have to deal with it. You're calling others selfish in your remarks, and yet your own remarks seem pretty selfish if you ask me.

Meanwhile, you villainize anyone else who would dare suggest you do otherwise.

Bitter, I think you have your answer.

 

[gsgary]

Let's cut to the chase. If the woman is hot, she should be able to whip them out any where, any time, any place.

Oh, c'mon. I kid...

I see loads on a night on the town the girls love to get them out

 

[gsgary]

Wow, seriously!!! I am so sad to hear you guys talk like this I mean come on, this forum is the one that got all excited about the new nutity section, no?? I breastfed my daughter for 15 months and am currently breastfeeding my 9 month son. I am sure that most of Austin has seen my boobs. Yes, I feed my kid when he is hungry. I take my boob out of my shirt where ever I am and feed him. I do not use a cover, its already 95 degrees here. Plus, using a cover is a PITA. Being offended by that is offensive. Boobs are made to feed babies. The human race wouldn't be in existance without breasts. Sheesh people. Get over it! I feel offended when I see a sweet newborn baby sitting in a bouncer seat with a bottle shoved in her mouth. Babies deserve the loving connection of breastfeeding, not to mention the health benifits. Babies crave the boob, they are born to find the boob! Within minutes of birth if placed on the mothers tummy they will wiggle themselves up to the boob all on their own. So yes, I get saddened (not 'offended') by seeing babies be bottlefed, but I would never say anything to a bottle feeding mother. Feeding our children is our business. Whether its via bottle, boob, or mcdonalds. Breastfeeding should be celebrated, photographed, and normalized.

Good on you, one of the most natural things in the world and i would never be offended

 

[punch]

for the love of all that is holy, breastfeeding is legal and normal.

personal dislike leading to cultural standards for something has led to a lot of ridiculous cultural issues: racism, sexism, homophobic hate crimes, etc. your personal dislike doesn't come into play when someone is doing something that is their right and is legal. in that case, it DOESN'T matter what you think and dislike of something personally gives you no rights except for to not look. so your ONLY choice in a matter like this is to not look if you don't like it, and that has nothing to do with selfishness. it's simply out of your control. context of the matter has to come into play.

this is a largely male-dominated forum, and sometimes... you really whip out your dicks and look like fools. it's shameful, a lot of it.

i'd love to see you eat with a blanket over your head or in a stall.

 

[paigew]

I suppose I could dig through my diaper bag and try to find my cover (if I remembered to bring it). Put it on and get baby latched while standing in the checkout line trying to pay without slowing down other people behind me. WHILE trying to keep my 2 year old from grabbing candy off the shelfs (even though she is in the shopping basket strapped in). While holding said (hungry) baby....sure, I'll get right on that for you.


or...I could grab screaming baby, stick him on the boob and be out of the store in 3 minutes leaving the easily offended shoppers to finish without the background noise of my kids hungry/frustrated/mad cries

and serioulsy, how selfish are we as a human race that we would rather a baby scream out with hunger pains than to 'allow' a woman to breastfeed her baby in line at the checkout? Screw the baby, I don't want to see that? Serioulsy? WE are the adults.

Wow, seriously!!! I am so sad to hear you guys talk like this I mean come on, this forum is the one that got all excited about the new nutity section, no?? I breastfed my daughter for 15 months and am currently breastfeeding my 9 month son. I am sure that most of Austin has seen my boobs. Yes, I feed my kid when he is hungry. I take my boob out of my shirt where ever I am and feed him. I do not use a cover, its already 95 degrees here. Plus, using a cover is a PITA. Being offended by that is offensive. Boobs are made to feed babies. The human race wouldn't be in existance without breasts. Sheesh people. Get over it! I feel offended when I see a sweet newborn baby sitting in a bouncer seat with a bottle shoved in her mouth. Babies deserve the loving connection of breastfeeding, not to mention the health benifits. Babies crave the boob, they are born to find the boob! Within minutes of birth if placed on the mothers tummy they will wiggle themselves up to the boob all on their own. So yes, I get saddened (not 'offended') by seeing babies be bottlefed, but I would never say anything to a bottle feeding mother. Feeding our children is our business. Whether its via bottle, boob, or mcdonalds. Breastfeeding should be celebrated, photographed, and normalized.

Well, and there you have it.

I mean ... you pretty claearly stated that you can't be bothered to cover up or move off to a more discreet location. The people around you will just have to deal with it. You're calling others selfish in your remarks, and yet your own remarks seem pretty selfish if you ask me.

Meanwhile, you villainize anyone else who would dare suggest you do otherwise.

Bitter, I think you have your answer.

Look its not like breastfeeding women just love to whip it out. I would love if my baby only needed to eat when I was near a nice comfy chair, where it was quiet and I could sit and feed my baby. But babies need to eat, and sometimes they need to eat (or poop, or cry, or burp, or puke) at less than convenient times. Its not like I look forward to breastfeeding when I am in less than ideal circumstances. Seriously, how offensive is it seeing a baby nurse? Really, its offensive? I find it offensive seeing news stories about toddlers being raped or their eyes being cut out in other countries. Seems american men are easily 'offended'. I am not 'villianizing' others, simply saying that you should stfu about it. We are feeding our kids. It is our jobs to make sure our babies are fed and happy and if you have a problem because you got a glimpse of boob skin while I was trying to comfort my crying (infant) son then get over yourself. You BEST not approach ME about it, I will throw a sh*t fit.

 

[punch]

it says far more about the people concerned with seeing a boob used for nursing than it does about the women nursing.

i'll pound my god-damned desk until my hands are red, because that's how these cultural misunderstandings get understood.

honestly, i really hate this forum.

 

[flowness]

To the OP question - yes, you should just choose to look away from something you don't want to see. We have many rights, and if someone actually infringes on them, feel free to speak up. But there's no "right to not feel offended". Your feelings are up to you, and you alone. If we had that kind of right, I'd never again have to hear another guy call his wife/girlfriend "f------ b----", or a parent their child "f------ stupid" right in front of my child.

And yes I do nurse in public, anywhere, anytime, with both kids. (Now, with an active 3 year old, sometimes it's the only way the 6 month old can get to eat!) I cover, or not, as it seems necessary to me. And FWIW, in 3 years, I've only ever gotten positive/approving comments. If someone feels offended by my nursing, and says something, I'd be surprised. But I'm sure there's some aspect of their own parenting life that I would disagree with - and which they would not welcome my commenting on. So how about we just keep both our mouths shut?

EDIT: re-read that ... I don't actually nurse both kids together in public, talk about a logistical nightmare! But #1 had a good long run, and now #2 is getting the same.