I'm completely confused by the last bit of that.
That is exactly why you are having focus issues with eyes. You have gaps in your understanding of depth-of-field.
Evaluative is
not a good metering mode for doing portraiture.
Does the viewfinder of your camera display the current ISO setting? I recommend you develope a check list to follow for every shot. Write it down. Use it till you have it memorized and can run down the checklist mentally.
- check the shooting mode
- check the metering mode
- check the ISO
- check the focus mode
- check the focus area mode
- check the focus point
- etc.
Once memorized, in practice it takes about 3 seconds to do the checks.
If you're using strobed light you can use your lowest native ISO. When using strobed light the in-camera meter is useless for metering the flash of light. It is an instantaneous reflected light meter and cannot meter flash. That's one of the reasons why pros use hand held meters. But if you know the strobe light's GN number and the distance to what you want to light, you can do some simple 5th grade math and determine the lens aperture to use for a properly exposed strobed light photograph. If there is a specific aperture you want to use, the same simple equation can be re-written using basic algebra to determine what GN number you need at that aperture, or to determine the distance to whatever it is you want to light using a specific GN and lens aperture.
With them being right up against the background in #2, it would be within the DOF. There was no hope of blurring the background. What Peterson called a 'don't care' lens aperture situation in
Understanding Exposure.
DOF is controlled by more than just the lens aperture. In addition to the lens aperture you also have to account for:
- lens focal length
- subject to image sensor distance
- subject to background distance.
DOF is more involved than just using a wide aperture.
Another critical point about depth-of-field.
The sharpness of focus starts dropping off
immediately as distance increases from the focal point. The range of focus doesn't mean the entire range of DOF is sharply focused, just the center of the range, but within the range focus sharpness
MAY be sufficient.
In #3 I would suggest the 50 mm focal length lens was the wrong choice. The 'sweet spot' of a lens is a range of apertures' like f/4 to F/8 or f/11. In any event, how sharp focus is, is directly tied to DOF and the 4 factors that determine the DOF.
Does your camera have a depth-of-field preview function?