Should I spite my driver's ed teacher?

photong · Jun 1, 2004

My driver's Ed guy called last night at 9:30 (WTF!) for an in-car lesson! Asked if I wanted to go out for a lesson from 5-7pm today. I felt obligated so I said yes.

I feel the need to cancel just to spite him. Should I?

I am annoyed because I told the guy twice already last month that I would call him for classes because I need to get my new work schedule. I haven't yet. I'm still waiting.

I don't have anything else to do except maybe see Jonathan (JAR). Then there's dinner Im sure for sometimes while Ill be away, not that I'll like dinner, but it's food. And I need to eat or I'll die (lol).

Should I cancel to piss him off, or should I just go, do the 2hr lesson with a guy that pisses me off and makes me feel stupid especially because I don't want to do it right now (and tell him firmly that he made me feel obligated and that's rude when I said I would call him)?

Am I just being stubborn? I feel its one of those issues. But see, I told the guy I WOULD CALL HIM, and he continues to not listen! Ive told him twice before.

The way I see it is, I paid for these lessons already. I should be able to do them when I want around his schedule. He is not busy whatsoever. I will not be taking my road test for a long time, and I fear I am the type of person who will need a refresher course on wtf Im doing days before the test so I know Im doing things properly.

I still have one or two lessons after this one btw. If it was my last I would defiantly cancel.

The nice me says to do it, the b**** me says to spite his ass.

GAH! I'll prolly end up going

Thank you for letting me rant.

graigdavis · Jun 1, 2004

Just go.

photong · Jun 1, 2004

graigdavis said:
Just go.

Why do you say that?

Big Mike · Jun 1, 2004

I say take the lesson but drive like you are crazy and scare the heck out of him. :twisted:

photong · Jun 1, 2004

Big Mike said:
I say take the lesson but drive like you are crazy and scare the heck out of him. :twisted:

Good advice I think.

graigdavis · Jun 1, 2004

Gota do the classes sometime. Its only 2 hours of your life.

oriecat · Jun 1, 2004

You told the guy it was ok, you didn't have to do that. You should have told him no, if you didn't want to do it. Why did you feel obligated? You had already told him you would schedule them, so there was no reason for you to feel obligated. You should have told him, no I'm not ready yet, or whatever, and that you would call him, as already explained. But you said ok, so stick to it. Just my opinion...

markc · Jun 1, 2004

oriecat said:
You told the guy it was ok, you didn't have to do that. You should have told him no, if you didn't want to do it. Why did you feel obligated? You had already told him you would schedule them, so there was no reason for you to feel obligated. You should have told him, no I'm not ready yet, or whatever, and that you would call him, as already explained. But you said ok, so stick to it. Just my opinion...

Ditto. Feeling obligated was your choice, really. You decided that him calling equals you feeling obligated. There is no universal law that makes it so.

If you don't go just to spite him, you just hurt yourself more, especially in the long run.

ormia · Jun 1, 2004

If this is the same drivers ed teacher who can't remember his right form his left I can understand why you would want to skip it, but there's no need to take out your frustrations from other stuff in your life on this idiot. The quicker you get your incar lessons out of the way, the quicker you can say goodbye to the twit and get your full lisence.

Walt · Jun 1, 2004

If you commited to the lesson, take it. If this guy is from a school that uses several instructors, talk to his boss, voice your displeasure and ask for another instructor.

photong · Jun 2, 2004

markc said:
oriecat said:

You told the guy it was ok, you didn't have to do that. You should have told him no, if you didn't want to do it. Why did you feel obligated? You had already told him you would schedule them, so there was no reason for you to feel obligated. You should have told him, no I'm not ready yet, or whatever, and that you would call him, as already explained. But you said ok, so stick to it. Just my opinion...

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Ditto. Feeling obligated was your choice, really. You decided that him calling equals you feeling obligated. There is no universal law that makes it so.

If you don't go just to spite him, you just hurt yourself more, especially in the long run.

Feeling obligated is NOT a choice, you can't help a feeling arising. It's how you deal with it. So I chose to go ahead but tell the guy firmly that I will call him.

photong · Jun 2, 2004

ormia said:
If this is the same drivers ed teacher who can't remember his right form his left I can understand why you would want to skip it, but there's no need to take out your frustrations from other stuff in your life on this idiot. The quicker you get your incar lessons out of the way, the quicker you can say goodbye to the twit and get your full lisence.

I still have two more to do. I won't be able to get rid of thise guy for a long time.

photong · Jun 2, 2004

graigdavis said:
Gota do the classes sometime. Its only 2 hours of your life.

I still have 4 to go. and like I said, I don't want to get these calsses over with like everyone is suggesting. I think i already explained my reasons.

You don't know what type of driver I am. I can't learn from my parents or anyone else because they don't know what I have to know for drving these days. My Dad has a hard time remembering his turn signal

:evil:

photong · Jun 2, 2004

Walt said:
If you commited to the lesson, take it. If this guy is from a school that uses several instructors, talk to his boss, voice your displeasure and ask for another instructor.

A lot of people break commitments. It's no big deal whatsoever.

As ormia said, he didn't know his left from right when it came to one way streets. i think he wants me to do it differently than whats in the book. how messed up is that?

markc · Jun 2, 2004

photong said:
Feeling obligated is NOT a choice, you can't help a feeling arising. It's how you deal with it. So I chose to go ahead but tell the guy firmly that I will call him.

It is from my point of view. It may not be a conscious one, but not everyone reacts to the same stimuli in the same manner. One person will feel obligated and another will not. It's dependant on the person doing the feeling, not the source of the stimuli. Blaming him for you feeling obligated isn't fair. His actions would not have caused me or a large number of other people to feel obligated, so it's not inherent in his actions. You and a number of other people would feel obligated. That's fine, but it's not his fault.

A lot of people break commitments. It's no big deal whatsoever.

Maybe not for you, but it is for anyone expecting personal responsibility. Again, that's our choice in how we resond to the situation. You can go ahead break your commitments, but don't expect people to treat you with anything resembling respect afterwards. What if you showed up for the lesson and found out the teacher had decided to go off and see a movie instead without calling you? I'd bet you'd be pissed.