things that really p*ss me off....
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oh, Lord...another day of b1tching....
lets see.... how 'bout people who bring their little kids to places like hospitals, where is should be quiet...and they let the kids prowl, cry out.. scream....
i wanna deck the little (sheeits) i mean blessings.....
lets see.... how 'bout people who bring their little kids to places like hospitals, where is should be quiet...and they let the kids prowl, cry out.. scream....
i wanna deck the little (sheeits) i mean blessings.....
You must be related to my sister!aprilraven said:
Oh, but wait ... that goes back to parents who don't parent ... the kid is just doing what he knows to do. If you can't control you kid ... it's your own dang fault.
Deck the parents, not the kids. Then, enforce the "My House/My Rules" law and change it to "My Office/My Rules".
(are we the only kids that were raised that way, Pallie?!?)
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yes, i think we were.... i had two different mothers, in my little office, and their kids... they were all over the place...pulling stuff down off shelves... fingering everything...
i could have nailed the mothers to the door...
and can anyone tell their kids " no "......?? i did....
i could have nailed the mothers to the door...
and can anyone tell their kids " no "......?? i did....
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thought about it... but lately, if you say anything to someones child, they will slap a lawsuit on ya so fast your head will spin...
life is not fair..
but someday, those parents will pay for their childs raising..may be to the county jail..but they will pay....
life is not fair..
but someday, those parents will pay for their childs raising..may be to the county jail..but they will pay....
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I have to put my 2 cents in on this subject. Just today I had a mother bring in her son who had been bitten by a dog. Her comment was you should have seen him run. I said, Which one the kid or the dog?" :lmao: That kid was all over the place and screeming for the fun of it. The mother said he was hyper? Can you say Ridlin?
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Ah, no offence Widow but that's something else that ****es me off... school's doling out Ridiln to kids like candy! I'm sorry, but if a kid is bouncing around and not paying attention, he probably doesn't have ADHD, he's BEING A FREAKIN' KID!
Right, mega rant coming.
I hate banning things. This country seems hell bent on banning everything. Let people make up their minds.
Middle lane drivers. GET OUT OF MY WAY. How comes if you're so concentrated on whizzing along at 63mph in safety you didn't see the damn big car approaching you at mach three flashing it's lights??? hmm? No, you're in the middle lane because you are either: lazy or ignorant. Move over fool.
People who are in traffic and have seen you overtaking the stationary cars on a motorbike and swerve out to stop/block you. Just what does that achieve you moron? And they're surprised when an entire group of bikers will scare the pants out of them for doing it!
People who think they can walk through me, because they want to get to somewhere I am blocking. Hello??? I'm 13st, 6ft tall and the only way to move me is to say "excuse me please", so get back half-pint!
Anyone who says "not being funny or nuffink"... No, you're not funny you inarticulate pathetic little chav.
Chavs. http://www.chavscum.co.uk/ for those who don't know.
People with their music turned up too loud whilst on public transport. Why do they always have such crap music?
Stupid Rappers. You've made millions telling the world your story, now do something positive rather than preaching hatred and telling kids to shoot each other.
McDonalds. Cos it's filth marketed at children.
People who go for a group meal and then insist on paying less because they "only" had one glass of wine and a salad. Eat on a different table next time you antisocial meanie. They, if you notice, were the same people who whined about the choice of Chinese/Indian/Italian which has resulted in the whole group ending up at a crap restaurant as well.
The people who invented the Crazy Frog ringtone.
The people who do those "do you want a loan, poor credit..." adverts. I'm not a massive fan of this country's underclass, but ripping off the needy and deparate with complex financial schemes which end up with them having their house repossessed or no chance of ever getting back on their feet is pushing things too far.
People who smoke next to the pushchair containing their baby. I smoke, but never in the presence of children. Adults... screw em they can move or go somewhere else or complain about it, but kids? No.
Labelling every kid who has a bad patch at school as having ADHD and giving them psychotropic substances during key phases of their development. It's been mentioned already, but it's a terrible thing. Stop it.
People who talk to you for hours about photography, seeming very knowledgeable.... and then show you the WORST pictures you've ever seen and ask "Well???" and land you right on the spot. This happened with a prior boss of mine and is a disturbing trend. Just say "lovely" and run. Also, people who give crap presents and expect gushing thanks. I once recieved Trusthouse Forté jam for Christmas, like? what?
Chuggers. Charity muggers who are paid on performance to sign you up DD to the latest cause. I hate them because they get pious when you interrogate them about the charity. I have every sympathy for fundraisers, having been one. I'm talking about people who are paid £9-£15 per hour to annoy you on the high-street.
Bigots generally.
Chavs need a second vote by the way. They are the scourge of my area!
Elizabeth Duke jewellrey should also get an honorary mention. http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Produ...35817.Pendants>C$cip=35818.Other+pendants.htm
People who don't know when white sports socks are not a good idea.
Blokes who can't sit on the train/tube without spreading their legs to about 80 degrees and encroaching on your space. It doesn't look that big from here mate, so budge up!
Email signatures in brush script. (sorry to anyone here)
The improper use of apostrophes. http://images.google.co.uk/images?c...postrophe sign&btnG=Google+Search&sa=N&tab=wi
The people who think I need 168 e-mails per day about viagra and watches.
Interfering people who run committees and populate my local golf club.
Pen and ink tattoos, especially on teenagers.
Carbage. http://www.topgear.com/content/timetoburn/sections/carbage/pages/0451/
Erm, yes. So as you can see, I am a very tolerant person. My philosophy is to love everyone, except the people/things listed above.
Rob
I hate banning things. This country seems hell bent on banning everything. Let people make up their minds.
Middle lane drivers. GET OUT OF MY WAY. How comes if you're so concentrated on whizzing along at 63mph in safety you didn't see the damn big car approaching you at mach three flashing it's lights??? hmm? No, you're in the middle lane because you are either: lazy or ignorant. Move over fool.
People who are in traffic and have seen you overtaking the stationary cars on a motorbike and swerve out to stop/block you. Just what does that achieve you moron? And they're surprised when an entire group of bikers will scare the pants out of them for doing it!
People who think they can walk through me, because they want to get to somewhere I am blocking. Hello??? I'm 13st, 6ft tall and the only way to move me is to say "excuse me please", so get back half-pint!
Anyone who says "not being funny or nuffink"... No, you're not funny you inarticulate pathetic little chav.
Chavs. http://www.chavscum.co.uk/ for those who don't know.
People with their music turned up too loud whilst on public transport. Why do they always have such crap music?
Stupid Rappers. You've made millions telling the world your story, now do something positive rather than preaching hatred and telling kids to shoot each other.
McDonalds. Cos it's filth marketed at children.
People who go for a group meal and then insist on paying less because they "only" had one glass of wine and a salad. Eat on a different table next time you antisocial meanie. They, if you notice, were the same people who whined about the choice of Chinese/Indian/Italian which has resulted in the whole group ending up at a crap restaurant as well.
The people who invented the Crazy Frog ringtone.
The people who do those "do you want a loan, poor credit..." adverts. I'm not a massive fan of this country's underclass, but ripping off the needy and deparate with complex financial schemes which end up with them having their house repossessed or no chance of ever getting back on their feet is pushing things too far.
People who smoke next to the pushchair containing their baby. I smoke, but never in the presence of children. Adults... screw em they can move or go somewhere else or complain about it, but kids? No.
Labelling every kid who has a bad patch at school as having ADHD and giving them psychotropic substances during key phases of their development. It's been mentioned already, but it's a terrible thing. Stop it.
People who talk to you for hours about photography, seeming very knowledgeable.... and then show you the WORST pictures you've ever seen and ask "Well???" and land you right on the spot. This happened with a prior boss of mine and is a disturbing trend. Just say "lovely" and run. Also, people who give crap presents and expect gushing thanks. I once recieved Trusthouse Forté jam for Christmas, like? what?
Chuggers. Charity muggers who are paid on performance to sign you up DD to the latest cause. I hate them because they get pious when you interrogate them about the charity. I have every sympathy for fundraisers, having been one. I'm talking about people who are paid £9-£15 per hour to annoy you on the high-street.
Bigots generally.
Chavs need a second vote by the way. They are the scourge of my area!
Elizabeth Duke jewellrey should also get an honorary mention. http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Produ...35817.Pendants>C$cip=35818.Other+pendants.htm
People who don't know when white sports socks are not a good idea.
Blokes who can't sit on the train/tube without spreading their legs to about 80 degrees and encroaching on your space. It doesn't look that big from here mate, so budge up!
Email signatures in brush script. (sorry to anyone here)
The improper use of apostrophes. http://images.google.co.uk/images?c...postrophe sign&btnG=Google+Search&sa=N&tab=wi
The people who think I need 168 e-mails per day about viagra and watches.
Interfering people who run committees and populate my local golf club.
Pen and ink tattoos, especially on teenagers.
Carbage. http://www.topgear.com/content/timetoburn/sections/carbage/pages/0451/
Erm, yes. So as you can see, I am a very tolerant person. My philosophy is to love everyone, except the people/things listed above.
Rob
Oh my ...
I'm going to preface this with a blanket statement that I'm not ripping on Verbs or Rob ... love you both ... really ... and you're both cutie patooties to me.
Now, for my rant:
My wonderful, beautiful, exhausting child, Cole, has ADHD. Not just diagnosed by a pediatrician on a whim ... nope, he's seen the best Arkansas has to offer at UAMS and Children's. His medical records were a subject study at Johns Hopkins AND Mayo. At the age of 2 1/2, I was a little concerned because he was in constant motion ... CONSTANT. Not just busy and into everything like a regular two year old ... but constant. He would go 36-48 hours without any sleep at all. Wide eyed, bushy tailed and in constant motion. At that time, our pediatrician was a wonderful, caring, loving doctor that took a personal interest in Cole and in our family. He went above and beyond the call of duty and researched ADHD in kids that young. Normally, it isn't diagnosed till age seven and up. We began our trek through diagnosis at the age of three.
We were seen by the department head of psych at Children's Hospital and UAMS. We spent two solid days undergoing observation, motor skills, rote activities, and numerous other tests. Some they weren't able to fully complete due to his age and inability to answer for himself, but the rest of the tests opened up a whole new world to us. We had three possibilities: autism, epilepsy and ADHD.
Being a mom, I voted to start with epilepsy as that was the lesser of the three to me. That could be treated easily with meds ... I thought. Electrodes were attached and testing began. Negative. Not a trace of epilepsy. That left autism or ADHD. Geesh. Okay ... let's find out what we're dealing with and see what we can do to help. I began reading and currently have a library on psych 'disorders' that would rival any library. While I trusted the doctors completely, I wanted to be well informed and be able to understand and ask questions.
Turns out my son, my little slice of heaven, is not autistic but he does have ADHD. It's not something you 'grow out of' or 'have a touch of'. Part of the brain is actually non functioning. It can happen in utero, with an accident or in some cases, high prolonged fever. Some cases, it's hereditary. It's not caused by bad parenting or lack of control. It is not brought on by too much sugar or caffeine. Part of my child's brain does not function and will never function. His body cannot process dopamine like ours can. Is he retarded? No, he is actually brilliant ... in the truest sense of the word. When he was four, rather than color easter eggs, he water color painted each egg. They were beautiful. He can draw so well, it's scary. He had the vocabulary of a teenager at the age of four. He has the vocabulary of a 40 year old now. The flip side of that brilliance is in order to draw or color, he has to separate his items according to color, then arrange according to hue ... otherwise, it just doesn't work.
As a younger child, he had a lot of severe sensory problems: lighting, textures, certain foods ... even something as simple as a ceiling fan could make him a little more nervous. Vibrant colors easily excited him ... kindergarten, with all the doodads on the walls and hanging from the ceiling was a challenge.
The rest of the down side: he has no friends. He stays in trouble a lot at school because he's so active and impulsive that the other kids don't want to befriend him. He's about two years behind socially, and we all know how kids are with immaturity. His inability to focus on one thing is difficult and things have to be broken down. You cannot, even at the age of 10, tell him to 'get ready for school' and expect the teeth to be brushed, hair to be combed and for him to be fully dressed with his backpack ready. If you're that broad with him, you might get the teeth, but the hair was forgotton because he was distracted by something in the bathroom and forgot. Getting dressed was hampered as he forgot one sock because there was a rock in his shoe and when he sat down on the bed to get it out, he sat on the flashlight that he was fixing the night before and started to change the batteries and then put on his headphones from the dresser as he was reaching for the battery pack and he had to get his cd case out of his backpack and ...... You see how distracted and lost they can be.
Now, we are awesome parents. We are and have always been very firm with house rules, etiquette and public behavior. However, things are not always easy. We've seen every counselor/therapist/psych-ologist and -iatrist available and three of them handed me the check back and said I knew more than they did. The majority of the rest said that after about three months, there was nothing more they could help with because he had all the 'right answers.'
We have always been opposed to medication, but he's been on several different kinds. The one he is currently on has had a four year run and seems to do pretty well. He is not doped up and lethargic. He is not slow. He is still a very mobile and active child. Fortunately for us, we live in the country and he as 20 acres at his disposal. He, unlike most ADHD kids, has no learning disabilities, at all, yet he is failing school due to the need to rush through his work and move on. His teachers can't keep him busy enough. They know he's smart and capable ... and he usually has tons of homework because he has to redo some of the work.
School has been a nighmare. He was suspended from Kindergarten, first and third grades and didn't know what 'recess' meant in Kindergarten and first grade because the school labeled him a troublemaker since he didn't fit into their little square chair in their little square classroom in their little square building. My kid happens to be round ... not square. We've been in ALE classes (alternative learning environment), Easter Seals programs, summer enrichment studies and a host of other things that I ferreted out. I don't dope him up so that I don't have to deal with him. We handle the differences he has by giving him rules and limits. We have taught him about responsibility for actions and how every action affects everyone around him. In short ... we don't use this as an excuse.
Early on, I thought he had 'problems.' I quickly discovered that they weren't problems because God made my child perfectly and He entrusted him to me to care for. I know now that Cole simply has differences that are miracles designed to make me stop and listen. Cole gives me a fresh approach at life, because it is certainly never boring with him around!
Anyway ... like I said ... I'm not bashing on anyone about meds and ADHD. It's just that it is a REAL medical issue for some people. Now, there are a HUGE amount of docs that prescribe meds for kids that don't need it. Those are sometimes the lethargic kids that just need love and attention and guidance, not drugs.
Sadly, due to Cole's ADHD and meds, he will never be able to serve his country in the military or any number of other professions. Sad, because he's brilliant and creative and interesting. And he's in good company: Einstein, Beethovan, JFK, George Lucas, Picasso, Da Vinci, Winston Churchill, Walt Disney, Henry Ford ... and it's even been said that Ansel Adams was ADHD.
Okay ... that's all ...
I'm going to preface this with a blanket statement that I'm not ripping on Verbs or Rob ... love you both ... really ... and you're both cutie patooties to me.
Now, for my rant:
My wonderful, beautiful, exhausting child, Cole, has ADHD. Not just diagnosed by a pediatrician on a whim ... nope, he's seen the best Arkansas has to offer at UAMS and Children's. His medical records were a subject study at Johns Hopkins AND Mayo. At the age of 2 1/2, I was a little concerned because he was in constant motion ... CONSTANT. Not just busy and into everything like a regular two year old ... but constant. He would go 36-48 hours without any sleep at all. Wide eyed, bushy tailed and in constant motion. At that time, our pediatrician was a wonderful, caring, loving doctor that took a personal interest in Cole and in our family. He went above and beyond the call of duty and researched ADHD in kids that young. Normally, it isn't diagnosed till age seven and up. We began our trek through diagnosis at the age of three.
We were seen by the department head of psych at Children's Hospital and UAMS. We spent two solid days undergoing observation, motor skills, rote activities, and numerous other tests. Some they weren't able to fully complete due to his age and inability to answer for himself, but the rest of the tests opened up a whole new world to us. We had three possibilities: autism, epilepsy and ADHD.
Being a mom, I voted to start with epilepsy as that was the lesser of the three to me. That could be treated easily with meds ... I thought. Electrodes were attached and testing began. Negative. Not a trace of epilepsy. That left autism or ADHD. Geesh. Okay ... let's find out what we're dealing with and see what we can do to help. I began reading and currently have a library on psych 'disorders' that would rival any library. While I trusted the doctors completely, I wanted to be well informed and be able to understand and ask questions.
Turns out my son, my little slice of heaven, is not autistic but he does have ADHD. It's not something you 'grow out of' or 'have a touch of'. Part of the brain is actually non functioning. It can happen in utero, with an accident or in some cases, high prolonged fever. Some cases, it's hereditary. It's not caused by bad parenting or lack of control. It is not brought on by too much sugar or caffeine. Part of my child's brain does not function and will never function. His body cannot process dopamine like ours can. Is he retarded? No, he is actually brilliant ... in the truest sense of the word. When he was four, rather than color easter eggs, he water color painted each egg. They were beautiful. He can draw so well, it's scary. He had the vocabulary of a teenager at the age of four. He has the vocabulary of a 40 year old now. The flip side of that brilliance is in order to draw or color, he has to separate his items according to color, then arrange according to hue ... otherwise, it just doesn't work.
As a younger child, he had a lot of severe sensory problems: lighting, textures, certain foods ... even something as simple as a ceiling fan could make him a little more nervous. Vibrant colors easily excited him ... kindergarten, with all the doodads on the walls and hanging from the ceiling was a challenge.
The rest of the down side: he has no friends. He stays in trouble a lot at school because he's so active and impulsive that the other kids don't want to befriend him. He's about two years behind socially, and we all know how kids are with immaturity. His inability to focus on one thing is difficult and things have to be broken down. You cannot, even at the age of 10, tell him to 'get ready for school' and expect the teeth to be brushed, hair to be combed and for him to be fully dressed with his backpack ready. If you're that broad with him, you might get the teeth, but the hair was forgotton because he was distracted by something in the bathroom and forgot. Getting dressed was hampered as he forgot one sock because there was a rock in his shoe and when he sat down on the bed to get it out, he sat on the flashlight that he was fixing the night before and started to change the batteries and then put on his headphones from the dresser as he was reaching for the battery pack and he had to get his cd case out of his backpack and ...... You see how distracted and lost they can be.
Now, we are awesome parents. We are and have always been very firm with house rules, etiquette and public behavior. However, things are not always easy. We've seen every counselor/therapist/psych-ologist and -iatrist available and three of them handed me the check back and said I knew more than they did. The majority of the rest said that after about three months, there was nothing more they could help with because he had all the 'right answers.'
We have always been opposed to medication, but he's been on several different kinds. The one he is currently on has had a four year run and seems to do pretty well. He is not doped up and lethargic. He is not slow. He is still a very mobile and active child. Fortunately for us, we live in the country and he as 20 acres at his disposal. He, unlike most ADHD kids, has no learning disabilities, at all, yet he is failing school due to the need to rush through his work and move on. His teachers can't keep him busy enough. They know he's smart and capable ... and he usually has tons of homework because he has to redo some of the work.
School has been a nighmare. He was suspended from Kindergarten, first and third grades and didn't know what 'recess' meant in Kindergarten and first grade because the school labeled him a troublemaker since he didn't fit into their little square chair in their little square classroom in their little square building. My kid happens to be round ... not square. We've been in ALE classes (alternative learning environment), Easter Seals programs, summer enrichment studies and a host of other things that I ferreted out. I don't dope him up so that I don't have to deal with him. We handle the differences he has by giving him rules and limits. We have taught him about responsibility for actions and how every action affects everyone around him. In short ... we don't use this as an excuse.
Early on, I thought he had 'problems.' I quickly discovered that they weren't problems because God made my child perfectly and He entrusted him to me to care for. I know now that Cole simply has differences that are miracles designed to make me stop and listen. Cole gives me a fresh approach at life, because it is certainly never boring with him around!
Anyway ... like I said ... I'm not bashing on anyone about meds and ADHD. It's just that it is a REAL medical issue for some people. Now, there are a HUGE amount of docs that prescribe meds for kids that don't need it. Those are sometimes the lethargic kids that just need love and attention and guidance, not drugs.
Sadly, due to Cole's ADHD and meds, he will never be able to serve his country in the military or any number of other professions. Sad, because he's brilliant and creative and interesting. And he's in good company: Einstein, Beethovan, JFK, George Lucas, Picasso, Da Vinci, Winston Churchill, Walt Disney, Henry Ford ... and it's even been said that Ansel Adams was ADHD.
Okay ... that's all ...
anicole said:
Wow, that's quite a story! Thanks for sharing.
I would like to make sure you knew that I was having a go at doctors who are prepared to label everything psychological with this year's buzzword. They did it before with autism/asperger's/epilepsy/anorexia etc. etc. and the UK even have a phrase for it: turnstyle doctoring, where patients come in, get something stamped on their forehead (incorrectly!), and get thrown straight with their freshly minted prescription and a complimentary pen from the drug company.
I was a bit careless with my wording though, I didn't mean to imply anything about the genuinity of the condition, which sounds like a parent's nightmare.
Rob
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"lot of big words, there, missy........i'm just a humble pirate.."
you know i agree with you.....and your a wonderful mother...you always have been..
cole is a great child, and i love him to pieces...and because of your devotion, he is better than he would have been....
your awesome.... keep your head up...
you know i agree with you.....and your a wonderful mother...you always have been..
cole is a great child, and i love him to pieces...and because of your devotion, he is better than he would have been....
your awesome.... keep your head up...
Rob said:
:hug:: :hugs: :hug::
I didn't take any offense at all, Rob! It's the same situation here ... too many 'easy way out' diagnosing going on, for doctors, parents and teachers. Believe me, no one really wants to have 'something wrong' with their child ... but it's all in how you look at it and how you handle it that makes the difference. I could very easily let him run loose like a wild banshee and shrug my shoulders and say "Oh, he can't help it ... he has ADHD." Bull poopie ... the more he learns to process things, the better off he'll be as an adult. The meds aren't a cure all ... it's like any other 'illness' or condition ... I happen to have high blood pressure and a thyroid condition for which I take meds. I am smart enough to know that the pills aren't going to do all the work ... I have to limit salt, sugar, fats, etc. and get off my butt and exercise. Kids with this type of gig have to be taught and learn how to function and do things that are second nature to the rest of us.
He's a great kid. I've often said I was one of the fortunate ones because I don't have a 'normal' kid. I have a fantastic relationship with my child that so many parents don't have because it's a lot of work. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world! I have twin nephews that are the most laid back kids that ever lived. They spend a lot of time with us and Cole spends parts of Christmas break and summer with them. My brother and his wife have bags under their eyes when they bring him home!!!
:lmao:
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Nicole, he sounds like a fantastic boy! Quite like me, really...only smarter, probably. lol. I definitely recognize ADHD as being a serious thing that definitely does exist... my rant is how a school nurse's solution for every little classroom jitter now-a-days is "He's got ADHD, give him medicine". I know a guy who is now clinically insane, and do you know what the doctors blame it on? Ritilin... he was diagnosed with ADHD when he didn't actually have it, and he took the stuff for ten years. Now he hears voices in his head. 
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