ANDS! I appreciate the help, but Manual has given me a sound ass-kicking in the past, and there were some very generous people who stuck with me for a while while I tried different settings, but it got so long-winded and so little progress was made that people started losing interest.. That's why I went to AP mode-at least I don't have so many chances to screw it up..
When I don't use aperture priority mode, I don't have the availability of slow sync mode, which I think I really need in this case to allow the small lights of the Christmas tree to come through and warm the scene before the flash fires. I don't know how to achieve this effect in Manual, much less take a good picture.. AP is the only mode on my camera in which slow flash sync is an option.
Here's a comparison for illustration purposes, and again, in AP mode with and without slow sync. Keep in mind, these two pictures are identical settings, SB600 mounted.
Without slow sync-boring:
And with the flash in slow sync:
What do you think? Think I can do that in Manual with the right advice? I put my camera in Manual like you suggested and set the shutter to 1/60, ISO 200, Auto WB, flash on normal with SB600 in TTL mode and I got useable pictures. These pictures aren't bad, but the lights of the Christmas tree are just obliterated. Would metering on the pellet stove help this, and if so, how the heck do you meter off of something other than your subject?
Here are the Manual shots. They are painfully plain, but they're in manual: