Robin , I haven't read all the post yet ,But did read the Blog post . It was well written ,and made good points ! One thing I have come away with ,from your post, Your experiences will make you a better wedding photog . Knowing how it feels to get disappointed by a "Pro" ,YOU will up your game ! I could actually repeat your story only replacing the names with my Son's and Daughter-in-Law's . I was not a part of picking the photographer for them ,But My Son has been around photographers His whole life and his Wife's Family Run a Very successful photography business . The Photographer even has photos in brides magazines . I actually ended up with the RAWs trying to salvage what I could. They paid 3k . My point here is as you said ,DO YOUR HOMEWORK !