Girl Trouble

[runnah]

I have a 15 year old going into his sophomore year of high school. This thread is being bookmarked for near future reference.

Have him read this now as a precautionary tale.

 

[jwbryson1]

There are BINDERS FULL OF WOMEN out there. Go buy a 3-ring one and get sloppy with it!

My GOD, you sound pathetic.

 

[Empire]

First off, don't let anyone interfere with your school work. Show some confidence!!! My first date with my current girlfriend(going on 2 years now and I def expect her to be my future wife), my car broke down lol. Are you working? You gotta make an effort man. Job, license, car!! Do you think being sad is going to help you get her? If you show her that you're all depressed and ****, she's going to think your psycho. It's really not that hard. You got this!

 

[Gavjenks]

Also, if you don't have a car and/or money (or at least liquid/available money?), then obviously you shouldn't take a girl on a dinner and movie date at two venues that are driving distance away and both require money!

I don't think it's at all necessary to be rich and on wheels to find any girls that will like you. However, if you are broke and ride around on a bike, suggesting dates anyway that require money and cars and then failing at them just makes you look like an idiot who is poor at planning, which is bad for a relationship even if the car and money wouldn't have been an issue. Play to your strengths, not to a stereotype.

 

[Photographiend]

You seem like a sweet guy despite your lousy date. I have no doubt that you will be quite the catch once you get all your ducks in a row. My last two cents on this topic... I see a lot of suggestions for you to go out and pick up another lady and I personally disagree. Yes, keep your eye out but never lower your standards or the quality of your character for the sake of having a chick on your arm. It means something that you wait for the "right" kind of girl to come along and you don't feel compelled to try on every shoe in the shoe store. No girl wants to be the girl you just borrowed to keep yourself entertained between relationships. Even when it doesn't work out it matters that the dates you choose to go on are with people you thought there could be a future with. That is an excellent quality in yourself and when you finally do find "The One" she will appreciate that about you.

I appreciate that about my husband.

 

[DGMPhotography]

I do have a job, and money, but for some reason the ATM wouldn't work. And I just got my license on Monday. Woot. Next step is a car.

Again, you guys have already told me how pathetic I am. I get it, telling me again isn't going to help anything.

Thanks though...

 

[DGMPhotography]

You seem like a sweet guy despite your lousy date. I have no doubt that you will be quite the catch once you get all your ducks in a row. My last two cents on this topic... I see a lot of suggestions for you to go out and pick up another lady and I personally disagree. Yes, keep your eye out but never lower your standards or the quality of your character for the sake of having a chick on your arm. It means something that you wait for the "right" kind of girl to come along and you don't feel compelled to try on every shoe in the shoe store. No girl wants to be the girl you just borrowed to keep yourself entertained between relationships. Even when it doesn't work out it matters that the dates you choose to go on are with people you thought there could be a future with. That is an excellent quality in yourself and when you finally do find "The One" she will appreciate that about you.

I appreciate that about my husband.

Thank you, I really appreciate that.

 

[nycphotography]

You seem like a sweet guy despite your lousy date. I have no doubt that you will be quite the catch once you get all your ducks in a row. My last two cents on this topic... I see a lot of suggestions for you to go out and pick up another lady and I personally disagree. Yes, keep your eye out but never lower your standards or the quality of your character for the sake of having a chick on your arm. It means something that you wait for the "right" kind of girl to come along and you don't feel compelled to try on every shoe in the shoe store. No girl wants to be the girl you just borrowed to keep yourself entertained between relationships. Even when it doesn't work out it matters that the dates you choose to go on are with people you thought there could be a future with. That is an excellent quality in yourself and when you finally do find "The One" she will appreciate that about you.

I appreciate that about my husband.

I agree with "don't lower your standards" and have honor and integrity.

But by actively looking, you can actually raise your standards.

 

[mishele]

Sorry, I know I'm being pathetic, and that's the reason I'm definitely not printing out this thread and giving it to her. I've just been waiting for a long time for the right girl to come along and I thought I finally had a chance, and I did, and pretty much blew it. In the meantime, I'll trudge on.

I'll post back if anything changes.

Thanks, friends.

I'm just curious...how do you know she is "the one"? I mean, this was your first date, have you known her for a long time?

 

[Braineack]

I'm getting Capital Ale House ads on this site now cause I've viewed this thread so much. Boy do I miss $1 burger night.

 

[jwbryson1]

Listen, cowboy, I had my heart crushed by a girl when I was 21. I thought she was "the one" too, but after about 4 or 5 months of dating her, I got dumped. We were never "together," if you will, but just went out on a few dates and had a great time. She married some doctor now and lives in a big house in El Paso. Who cares? I went to law school, got 2 law degrees, bought my OWN big house and married a real treasure who gave me 2 beautiful daughters. We've been married for 15 years now....

The point is that at age 20, you're too YOUNG to get tied down. My God, man, play the field. Learn to "play ball" (if you catch my drift). Go out, have fun, stop being so damn serious---just meet as many girls as you can and be yourself.

This reminds me of an old joke that I like to share: A daddy bull and a baby bull were on top of a hill looking down in the prairie valley below. The prairie was full of cows of all ages and sizes. The young bull says excitedly "Daddy! Daddy! Let's run down there and screw one of those cows!" The daddy bull responds: "No, son, let's walk down there and screw them all."

Got it, cowboy?

 

[The_Traveler]

He's a kid. Ain't you readin' his posts? Being 20 has nothing to do with it.

We are privileged in this society to mature at a variety of paces, now that we're no longer required to go start hunting with sticks at age 14. It's nice.

Answering and treating him as if he was indeed 'a kid' is facilitating his remaining immature.

And we are not his friends, we are, at most, Internet acquaintances and, tbh, if he was run over by a cultivator tomorrow and sliced into bits, I might be a bit startled and a little sad for him but that's all.

The OP needs to realize, among other things, that a real life and real friends and real relationships need to be cultivated so he wouldn't be pouring out his deepest angst to people he wouldn't recognize on the street.

 

[Braineack]

The OP needs to realize, among other things, that a real life and real friends and real relationships need to be cultivated so he wouldn't be pouring out his deepest angst to people he wouldn't recognize on the street.

Well, if he goes to VCU, they pretty much indotrin...teach this there.

 

[runnah]

He's a kid. Ain't you readin' his posts? Being 20 has nothing to do with it.

We are privileged in this society to mature at a variety of paces, now that we're no longer required to go start hunting with sticks at age 14. It's nice.

Answering and treating him as if he was indeed 'a kid' is facilitating his remaining immature.

Bingo. Our entire society is infantilized. Adults act like snotty teenagers and its applauded.

 

[amolitor]

If you're not willing to accept that we are his friends, I am surprised that you seem to feel it's our job to "grow him up" (where "you" can mean one of several different people at this point).