Girl Trouble

[runnah]

If you're not willing to accept that we are his friends, I am surprised that you seem to feel it's our job to "grow him up" (where "you" can mean one of several different people at this point).

Strangers will give you a more honest opinion than friends and loved ones. Hence why I post photos here for honest critiques rather than asking my mother.

 

[Photographiend]

To add to the convo as it is progressing:

When it comes to the online world, people who take the time to give you their honest opinions (trolls not included) are as good as any friend. And this entire forum is like one big (albeit dysfunctional) family. The places you choose to spend your time and open yourself up to the world are more than just casual to the person who feels that bond. With age you become more careful with where you invest your feelings and let your vulnerabilities show but he is 20 so calling these people his friends just goes to speak towards the level of respect he has for the people here and how he values their time and feedback.

 

[DGMPhotography]

I'm just curious...how do you know she is "the one"? I mean, this was your first date, have you known her for a long time?

I never said she was "the one." She's the first one. At this point I just want some closure. For her to tell me she'd like to try again sometime, or to say we're just friends. Saying "I'd like to get to know you as a person first before anything else, and see what happens," just has me wondering. She's the only one who can tell me but I also don't want to bug her and seem clingy and desperate. Blahhh

 

[Tiller]

Dude, she dumped you. Trust me. LET IT GO.

 

[mishele]

^^^Gotta agree!! If she was into you, you would be going out again. Girls don't play head games like guys do....hehe

 

[runnah]

At this point I just want some closure. For her to tell me she'd like to try again sometime, or to say we're just friends.

It's one date! ONE! Jesus ****ing christ man. I could understand wanting closure after YEARS of dating but after ONE date!!!

She didn't like you as a boyfriend. End of ****ing story. Build a bridge and get over it.

 

[pgriz]

^^^Gotta agree!! If she was into you, you would be going out again. Girls don't play head games like guys do....hehe

Certainly not at the same level. Unfortunately, the guys are playing checkers, and the girls are playing blindfold chess. I say this as a somewhat bemused observer of what happens in our extended family (six young women between the ages of 21 to 29, same number of young men between 18 and 27).

 

[mishele]

^^^Gotta agree!! If she was into you, you would be going out again. Girls don't play head games like guys do....hehe

Certainly not at the same level. Unfortunately, the guys are playing checkers, and the girls are playing blindfold chess. I say this as a somewhat bemused observer of what happens in our extended family (six young women between the ages of 21 to 29, same number of young men between 18 and 27).

I'm watching my single lady friends go through the ringer...lol It be brutal out there. =)

 

[JacaRanda]

^^^Gotta agree!! If she was into you, you would be going out again. Girls don't play head games like guys do....hehe

Head games? Seriously; try to stay on topic! DISGUSTING!!!!! :shock:

 

[Steve5D]

He's a kid.

Lighten up on 'im.

A kid?

Sorry, but a "kid" to me is 16 or 17. I'm pretty sure the OP's older than that...

 

[Steve5D]

I never said she was "the one." She's the first one. [/quote]

You said you were looking for "the one" and that you thought you had a chance, but blew it...

At this point I just want some closure. For her to tell me she'd like to try again sometime, or to say we're just friends. Saying "I'd like to get to know you as a person first before anything else, and see what happens," just has me wondering. She's the only one who can tell me but I also don't want to bug her and seem clingy and desperate.

Why in the Hell would you wait for her to tell you anything? Tell her with your actions. Get back out there, with cash in your wallet, and start dating other women.

You need to learn between the lines. What she really told you is "You have a better chance of having a baby than you do of getting me to go out with you again".

My past is littered with examples of wonderful women who I wanted to date but, instead, made the mistake of becoming friends with first. It's an absolute recipe for relationship disaster. Sure, there may be exceptions, but it's silly to count on an exception. I've dated many women who are now my friends, but I can honestly say that I never dated a woman who was my friend prior to us dating.

Move on. This is silly...

 

[vintagesnaps]

You're wondering, maybe after that first date she's wondering too. You had birthday dinner with friends and her, seems like you'll see her again socially; I guess you'll have to decide whether to ask her out again or stay friends or just move on. People on here can offer suggestions but don't know you, which I think makes it pretty much guess work. What do you want to do? It's your life, it's up to you.


And no! I wouldn't give her a copy of this! LOL

 

[MartinCrabtree]

Move on. But be nice to her when you run into each other. Don't add creepy a$$hole to her thoughts of you. Women do talk to each other just like guys do.

BTW the term "girl trouble" is redundant.

 

[ratssass]

Papa always said, "If it's got tits or tires, you're gonna have trouble with it."

....well,just got his license.If you think a chick can cause you to be depressed,try a $1500 transmission repair on a vehicle you're still paying on 4 yrs later.

 

[mishele]

Be happy she figured out she doesn't like you now. If it would've been 10 years down the road, she'd be taking half yo shlt.