bennielou
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I am secretly in love with Sabbath......
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bennielou said:I am secretly in love with Sabbath......
WHAT are you doing you are clearly dont have the situation in control. you are clearly not ready. ..."a natural light photographer" that is BS i have a second free shooter... what is the point if they dont know what they are doing either... you get what you pay for. sounds like you are going to screw up someones special day that they dont get back. think about that for a while. this is not just a job this is someones life you are messing with. why dont you work for another photographer as a second and learn and listen. Ive been shooting weddings for 10 years i hear nightmare stories like this all the time form guests
They're budget-limited, and because of that, are usually forced to accept a crap product.
I'm pretty sure she gets the point. People here continue stating the same points for oh.. about four pages worth.. I mean really, lets talk about bully mentality here. If you need to group up with the posse and add your little 'ya ya that's right ya what she said uh huh' bull**** then you really don't have much of an important opinion anyway.
She's not going to quit this job.
She's not going to be able to rent equipment.
She has what she has.
To the people who offered real advice based on those facts, thank you for actually showing some interest in helping a fellow photographer.
To the people who continue repeating the same bashing that has gone on since page one, please the point has been made and I for one find it very distasteful that on this forum so many people are quick to judge and jump down the throat of others.
She may be a beginner who got herself into a sticky situation, but she's still a person and she still needs your help. Why be mean? She's not going to be stealing any of your gigs. It's not like she's tarnishing the name of photography. She's a mom who needs extra money and can make it doing pics for people who aren't interested, or can't afford, someone of a higher professional caliber. Does that mean she should be bashed when she doesn't know something?
How many times have you been in a situation where you needed help at your job? We all started somewhere.
I know many people, who are hired in right out of college, who are GREEN and have no clue what they are doing but they learn as they go through experience.
Maybe she shouldn't be doing the wedding but she IS. Now don't you think it would be better to help her, and perhaps she'll learn something from this, than it is to drag her through the mud with every other post on this thread.
I find the whole pack mentality of forums to be so tired and boring. Let me see someone stand up on their own and actually have the back bone to not want to be one of the 'cool kids' and actually help this woman out. I would, but I'm new myself so I have no clue about lighting. However, I don't judge her for wanting to do what she can with what she has to make money. If you are a single mom you might want to do the same if your kids are hungry and nobody mention the f'ing government assistance. I mean that is such a cop out. Before you even say it, think about it..wouldn't you rather have her learning and trying something herself than relying on your tax money to feed her and her kid.. hmm? Really now.
I think this thread should be closed because people here are just plain mean and whoever owns this site should be ashamed that they have so many vultures here. I read a lot of former threads and up until december 10 it was a lot more peaceful.
I'm not saying that she isn't in a bad place or that people don't have the right to be annoyed. But ganging up on her and repeating the same thing several times is pointless. Also, I'm not saying I agree that she should do the wedding but I can't stop her and neither can you by being mean. All you can do is either not give her advice and watch as a couples wedding photos are destroyed, or give some advice she can USE and see a photographer learn something new, grow from it, and possibly prevent the same thing from happening in the future.
Thank you.
Also I won't be reading any responses, I don't do internet fights.
Also I won't be reading any responses, I don't do internet fights.
Yeah, I guess I didn't get that out quite right. What I was trying to say, in my own, painful way was that there are times when it's fine for someone without traditional skills or equipment to take on a wedding, BUT at the same time, it's NOT fair for someone (usually because of financial limitations) to think they're going to get a quality product from a Craig's List Fauxtographer.They're budget-limited, and because of that, are usually forced to accept a crap product.
With that in mind, is it the "fauxtographers" fault? I mean, unless a pro wants to do some charity work, the bride and grooms two options are either to take the best available to them, or just not have pictures. They may be expecting/hoping for a miracle, but I don't think its the person taking the pictures fault when that bubble bursts. By all means urge them to get a professional and over stress your shortcomings, but at the end of the day, if they say ok, then its on them. Noone is pulling a fast one on them. I didn't make their budget. Should they be advised to NOT get married until they can afford several grand for photos? I mean there are many angles to look at this from. Personally, I grew up in a very low income rural area. People there were lucky to even be able to afford a wedding at all, let alone all the bells and whistles. I guess if you believe he is possibly going to ruin someones day, you can also believe that he may also be saving someones day and providing a service to those in need.
(I mean "you" in the general sense, not "you" as in TiredIron specifically)
Thats kinda what I was saying too. That post wasn't really meant to be directed at you so much as just be thinking out loud in response to that statement.never mind... I know what I mean, but I can't seem to articulate it. Just washed my tongue and can't do a thing with it....
Understood and agree!Thats kinda what I was saying too. That post wasn't really meant to be directed at you so much as just be thinking out loud in response to that statement.never mind... I know what I mean, but I can't seem to articulate it. Just washed my tongue and can't do a thing with it....
One thing is for sure......if the OP does go through with it, we want to see the pics afterwards!!! well, at least I do anyway.
Understood and agree!Thats kinda what I was saying too. That post wasn't really meant to be directed at you so much as just be thinking out loud in response to that statement.never mind... I know what I mean, but I can't seem to articulate it. Just washed my tongue and can't do a thing with it....
One thing is for sure......if the OP does go through with it, we want to see the pics afterwards!!! well, at least I do anyway.
I am secretly in love with Sabbath......