Hi and welcome. The biggest problem with these photos is that they are taken with the flash on your camera. This causes harsh shadows and is usually unappealing. Use a lightsource that is away from the camera and larger like a window that faces open sky (no sun) or a lamp behind a white sheet.
That is an urban legend, that is total BS.Yeah, the flash pretty much spoils it. And ss far as I remember it's not advisable to use it directly on kids this young....

There you go. It's in print somewhere....so there is zero doubt that it's true.That baby OUGHT to be in pictures. With softer lighting though.
KmH, I'm as skeptical a guy as you will meet, but when I read the manual for my Speedlight (yes, I RTFM), on the bottom of page ii it reads: (scan, see item 9)
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