Socrates
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When a family loses a child, a photographer with this organization goes out to the hospital and photographs the child for the parents. It is all done free of cost so the parents can have memories of the child they lost. I'll get a link to a news story on it, hold on just a second.
My child died in my arms thirty-two years ago. Dr. Everett Koop was the surgeon that told me he can do nothing. In my case, I had a photo of him from before he died. It's still in my wallet and it's the only one that I have ever put there. My other sons are well aware and they accept my decision.
That being said, I learned that everyone grieves differently. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to grieve, especially when you've gone through the worst experience possible for a normal human being. In any event, I would not, under any circumstances, want a photo of my son after his death and I could not even consider taking photos of other children that have died. Please appreciate that that is not a criticism of the wishes of others. As I said, everyone grieves differently.
I will say to all that have not gone through such a tragedy... If someone close to you has such an experience, do NOT feel obligated to say anything profound. Perhaps the worst thing that can be said is "You're young, you'll have other children." I had a child after this experience and I think the world of him but he is not, in any way, a replacement for his deceased brother. The best thing to say is a very simple "I'm sorry" and then follow up with a hug.