my opinion is obviously based on my experiences. the reasoning i gave to somebody else who had a dissenting opinion from me was something like this:
If you never give the other person a chance to hurt you, there is a very good chance that they won't hurt you... equally, because you're wall of defense is so strong, they probably didn't give you all that much joy either. the reason? because you didn't allow them to.
in order for you to really enjoy somebody, i think you have to be vulnerable to them... and with that vulnerability comes the risk of being hurt... baddly.
i suppose there is a chance that the moment you open yourself up and trust somebody, they could burn you and thus end your relationship and in turn you'd have never gotten a chance to experience anything good of it, but i'm not sure i know a lot of people who would open themselves up to that level of emotional hurt, unless there was established trust.
If you never give the other person a chance to hurt you, there is a very good chance that they won't hurt you... equally, because you're wall of defense is so strong, they probably didn't give you all that much joy either. the reason? because you didn't allow them to.
in order for you to really enjoy somebody, i think you have to be vulnerable to them... and with that vulnerability comes the risk of being hurt... baddly.
i suppose there is a chance that the moment you open yourself up and trust somebody, they could burn you and thus end your relationship and in turn you'd have never gotten a chance to experience anything good of it, but i'm not sure i know a lot of people who would open themselves up to that level of emotional hurt, unless there was established trust.