Regarding Supposed TPF Bullies and Abuse Towards Newbies

[amolitor]

I *have* noticed a little tendency for the older timers to drag out the smily when they expect some sort of s**tstorm to arrive shortly, but these days they are usually disappointed. While somewhat mean spirited when it's used in a context where one suspects the old timer is looking forward to watching some newbie get pummeled, it's subtle enough to probably not even be noticed by the newbie and, as noted, the old timer is more often disappointed than not.

I find it somewhat gratifying when a mean-spirited gesture winds up being left hanging, so in a way I am in favor of it!

 

[Mr_Mac]

The problem with Internet forums is that the responses are flat. You cannot see the face or body language of the poster so you almost have to take any response with a grain of salt until you get a feel for the people who do respond to you. I also believe that if you open the door for C&C you better be ready for it all and if there are any ambiguous posts, ask the poster what he/she meant instead of going off thinking you were just handed over to the wolves. Shoot, I can't count the number of times I've laid out a response that I had to revise because it sounded harsh even though I never intended it that way.

To date, the only one who's hurt my feelings was Charlie!

 

[AgentDrex]

I'm not saying anyone here is abusive at all. Like I keep saying, this place seems to be devoid of it (it is my first home after-all). Having said that, this thread did bring to my attention an almost lazydaisical attitude towards the subject of bullying and that is somewhat disturbing. I hope some of you go back and re-read some of what you wrote and see that I am not telling the truth. If this world is to get anywhere, it will be through bonding not through made up excuses to have ignorance towards the maltreatment of others. Hopefully the new year will bring new vision and hope to us all and that we learn to show love first regardless whether our minds trick us into believing they are undeserving of it because our hearts will know it's best to do so. Thank you all for taking part in this thread. This meant a lot to me.

 

[Bitter Jeweler]

I joined this forum in April 2011, which is just a few months shy of 2 years ago. I posted my favorite photograph of my daughter and sat back and waited to be lauded for my genius! I got shredded, and my immediate response to the person was to shred them back with some diatribe about him being abused by his father or some other such nonsense. I distinctly remember Bitter's response to my post: "Another NewB bites the dust." I was crestfallen because I was certain that I was pure genius. The shredder came back to me with "what else can I say besides your photographs suck?" I was not a happy camper.

If you are going to put words in my mouth, please provide the link to the thread.
You know, "whole story".

 

[amolitor]

This one right here, Bitter Jeweler?

http://www.thephotoforum.com/forum/...b-w-daughter-thoughts-suggestions-thanks.html

 

[Bitter Jeweler]

This one right here, Bitter Jeweler?

http://www.thephotoforum.com/forum/...b-w-daughter-thoughts-suggestions-thanks.html

Ah, so in context, it wasn't ME saying his photos sucked, it was cloudwalker, and my response was, in regards to his awesome reaction to cloudwalker.

Thanks Amolitor!

 

[AgentDrex]

I know I've done my fair share of snarky remarks. I'm not above it. We ALL should work to be above it though. It's the self-attitude that WE don't behave like that. That's the mentality like I wrote in another thread "...not in my town, not in my backyard."

 

[amolitor]

No problem. I don't think anyone comes off looking particularly good in that thread, but it's a good random sample of the sort of stuff that used to go on here a lot more. Threads like that seem to happen a lot less often, or to be quite accurate, I notice them a lot less often. So, good!

 

[nycphotography]

Well for one thing... when the C&C is "first picture of wife, hubby, or ugly kids"... I just steer clear.

There is no way they are really looking for any honest feedback ;-)

 

[Bitter Jeweler]

No problem. I don't think anyone comes off looking particularly good in that thread, but it's a good random sample of the sort of stuff that used to go on here a lot more. Threads like that seem to happen a lot less often, or to be quite accurate, I notice them a lot less often. So, good!

I'm no angel.
But please, make your accusations of anyone, accurate.

 

[AgentDrex]

Thank you Mr_Mac, when you say "I also believe that if you open the door for C&C you better be ready for it all and if there are any ambiguous posts, ask the poster what he/she meant instead of going off thinking you were just handed over to the wolves." I agree with that. I also believe we should not make them have to ask us what we meant. We should be the first to give meaningful critiques right off the bat. If there's time to type something vague, then there's time to type something worthwhile. That or don't type at all. Would you not agree?

 

[Derrel]

This one right here, Bitter Jeweler?

http://www.thephotoforum.com/forum/...b-w-daughter-thoughts-suggestions-thanks.html

Now that...that was a good example thread...nobody really came out smelling like a rose in that...

 

[AgentDrex]

I'm not saying we have to stick our noses up and down each others' backsides but it would be nice to have a little think-session before we type out stuff. Because like has been mentioned, we are typing...there is no body language eye-contact going on. So we can either expect OTHERS to "nut up" or we can expect OURSELVES to have a little fore-thought into how we conduct ourselves. Saying that this is just the internet is a sore excuse for not being polite.

 

[shents]

There are some pompous twits here, But I am starting to enjoy giving them shiiiit back, And the rest of you lot are jokers, sarcastic,talented, bafoons... who obviously have been bantering with each other for a while, Well that is my month long subscription opinion .. As for bullying, I have big shoulders bring it! I can't wait to start uploading photos taken on my new cam for critique from you old goats! I shall take it on the chin and better myself with the help of you all, That is the whole point of the site

 

[Robin_Usagani]

I love jwbryson's post of his fishing trip. It was a jumping mahi mahi / marlin. Can't remember.