I feel your pain. I was recently put in a similar situation. I was scared shi*less. I kept hearing, "The bride is not hiring anyone (due to lack of money)" yada, yada. The couple had been married and split up for a year. They were getting remarried and I was told the whole affair was very casual...and it was. The bride wore sandles and the groom wore converse sneakers.
Unlike you, I only had nine days to read up and exactly
ONE day to learn how to use a flash. What's worse, I had to drive 2 hours to get there and had absolutely no idea what the lighting was like. To make matters worse, the electric in the church was gone due to a power outage. The entire church (except the stage) was dark.
Even though I hammered away to my friend that I was an amateur I reiterated it even more when I got there, as it turned out they were happy with their snapshots but I thought many of them looked like crap.
Lessons learned:
I'm having a horrible time keeping people in the frame with the 85mm. I keep wanting to stand too close which cuts off body parts and also causes focus issues.
If I could do it again, I would have spent more time
studying poses but I was cramming what little time I had into reading about the stupid flash!
I have absolutely NO IDEA how to make people look good in a group or even for single portraits. And despite the fact that I told everyone I had no idea what I was doing, they still looked to me for direction. I was constantly getting the look...
Okay what's next? Where now? Stand here? or here? That was my most humiliating moment because I was clueless.
Besides the flash, which I agree is going to be your lifesaver, also dedicate a lot of time to posing people.
Grab this book. It will help you so much. I wish I had time before the wedding to read the entire book but I only made it through the first few chapters.
Would I do the whole thing again? Ummm... no! Unless I had several months to study. Would I tag along with a pro and watch what they do? Most definitely!
Best of luck to you and if you would like to see the crappy photos I ended up with, they are the last article on my blog (in my sig line). OHHH! and I forgot to mention, the bride had surgery a week before the service. Every single photo had to be edited to cut out the scar. I did a horrible, horrible job with that. :meh: