Ok, so last night I did my first official paid wedding. I got lots of great shot's and followed almost all of the advice that I've read about on here, but I do have a few questions that you guys might be able to help me with. 1) The meal... So, maybe you cover this in the contract or just assume. But during the meal there is a very long lull in activity. Of course you can get the photos of people talking and sharing laughing etc, but do you just grab a plate and go for it, or ask politely? Do you even ask at all? I was faced with this decision and decided to take a breather and rest for a bit and the bride told me that they had already counted me as a "guest" and I should make myself a plate. So how do you handle this? 2) Downtime... So let's say that you are not offered a meal and there is some downtime. What do you do with that time. Review pictures? Call a friend? Do you even have any downtime? 3) Business cards.... At a function like this, would you have your cards out and ready for whoever wants them or just keep them in your pocket until someone asks? 4) Payment.... So we go a retainer of course when we met the B&G the first time. But at what point do you ask for the remainder? Should you ask at all and just wait until they bring it up? 5) How late do you stay? I stayed until things fizzled out. This was a smaller wedding so it didn't last too long, but longer than I truthfully had cared for. I didn't want to be rude and just leave, but there honestly were no more pics of the guests I could take. 6) The bartender... He hooked me up for free last night and I wasn't sure if that was appropriate. I wasn't drinking to get drunk but he asked me what I wanted and I told him. It was during a small break anyway. Also should you share some champagne at the toast or be at the ready? This could also be asked about the cake. Do you have some? Only if offered? Decline? 7) When kids go bad.... When the kids inevitably start to cry, do you take advantage and snap a little or not? I chose to take pictures just in case. Any help would be greatly appreciated.