Just as an update, after the very mixed opinion here, I put both these pics on flickr to see the reaction of the great unwashed masses.. To make it fair they were both uploaded on the same day one week apart, #1 being first. Both went on Explore and #1 got 1,780 views and 111 favs in its 24hrs, and #2 got 2,140 views and 102 favs. So pretty much #2 looked nicer in thumbnail I guess, but not a lot in it.
I have to hang my head in defeat though, as #1 was still the terrible batch processed version and still managed to hold its own with my lovingly and painstakingly edited #2. My wife is correct and obviously I have no idea what a good picture is. I'm having a moment of doubt where I wonder if its actually possible to become 'good' at photography if while you grasp light and effect, you cant actually tell what a decent shot looks like...