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Soul Rebel · Feb 13, 2006

They gave me the speech on why I should be careful. I was somewhere around 17-18 but nothing happened. It was all real innocent. They were worried but they were never angry.

Right now I am living at home, at 23, and my fiance and 2 kids are staying with us. My mom didnt like the idea of us sleeping together but for some reason she went along with it.

mentos_007 · Feb 13, 2006

Soul Rebel said:
Right now I am living at home, at 23, and my fiance and 2 kids are staying with us. My mom didnt like the idea of us sleeping together but for some reason she went along with it.

ohh... lovely... ehh... you know what? I'm dreaming about a bit of freedom... even a bit...

LaFoto · Feb 13, 2006

I was so much the same when I was your age, Aleksandra, my parents had some strict rules as to coming-back-home-times and so on, and I really longed to be out and on my own and free to do as I pleased. I wasn't good at it then

. Did all the wrong things (well, some) that I wish will not repeat themselves in my own kids. But what do I know? Kids always have to break free and it is always hard on the parents to let them go. I think. They mean well and are not understood, and their kids don't mean ill and their parents don't understand that, either ... it is the stage of "leaving the nest". Hard time for all involved!!!

mentos_007 · Feb 13, 2006

LaFoto said:
I was so much the same when I was your age, Aleksandra, my parents had some strict rules as to coming-back-home-times and so on, and I really longed to be out and on my own and free to do as I pleased. I wasn't good at it then . Did all the wrong things (well, some) that I wish will not repeat themselves in my own kids. But what do I know? Kids always have to break free and it is always hard on the parents to let them go. I think. They mean well and are not understood, and their kids don't mean ill and their parents don't understand that, either ... it is the stage of "leaving the nest". Hard time for all involved!!!

ohh....so you say that there are no chances on a few days without parents?

ehh... but you know what? I've no idea how they let me go to London... alone.. with Magda only... but... we were two blondes far far away...

James H Lyons · Feb 13, 2006

Well well,

I'm only 15 (16 V.soon)

Me mum doesn't mind, infact she laughs.
My Gf lives in central London.

Shes one of those rich types, but not.

Her parents are rich! In a month her mum and dad earn what my mum does in half a year and it's only my mum looking after us dad's in a flat around 20 miles away. I see him often.

But no, i am more worried what her parents think rather than mine!
Hehe

Cheers
James

Ice · Feb 13, 2006

I was never allowed to spend a few days with my girlfriend while back home, only a couple hours at a time. My parents are/were strict, now that I am in college I just dont tell.

mentos_007 · Feb 14, 2006

uhhh well... so I'll have to stand my parents critique for a long time...

Meysha · Feb 14, 2006

I wasn't allowed to stay over any of my boyfriend's houses.... except when mum and dad were out of town.......

Although I just moved out of home and moved straight in with my boyfriend 1700ks from home. hehehe and surprisingly mum and dad took it well - they were all for it. Mind you I had just spent a year over seas so they were used to me living out of home by then.

PlasticSpanner · Feb 14, 2006

By the time I was into serious relationships I wasn't speaking with my parents and within a few years I had moved out so that wasn't a problem.

When I first met Vicky her parents were very wary of her existing boyfriend and she had to be home every night (she was 18 at the time) When she split with him & started seeing me they relaxed a lot although a few of our nights out & my rebelious attitude should have made things worse! :lol:

Strangely, when I moved in with my Uncle to help him renovate his house he was more concerned than anyone else about my serious relationship with Vicky. He even gave me a lecture/talk about how he couldn't let anything happen to affect my future whilst I was living with him as it would affect his relationship with my dad.

Luck of the draw I guess! :lol:

Xmetal · Feb 14, 2006

When I first started dating Mel I found myself sleeping on the floor in the loungeroom for the first 3 months, she protested in the end and I ended up in the same bed and I was highly greatful because it was frikkin' freezing in the loungeroom during the winter months!!

My parents took it well when she started staying at ma house although they asked us what the 'arrangement' was at her house and the same rules applied....only I was still out in the loungeroom and she got my bed. :lol:

Defining moment for us was coming home late one afternoon and my room was s p o t l e s s (mum cleaned it).... Mel pointed to the cupboard where we keep our 'stuff' and I was horrified to find my 'raincoats' had been re-organised in dated order!!! :shock:

mentos_007 · Feb 14, 2006

Xmetal said:
When I first started dating Mel I found myself sleeping on the floor in the loungeroom for the first 3 months, she protested in the end and I ended up in the same bed and I was highly greatful because it was frikkin' freezing in the loungeroom during the winter months!!

My parents took it well when she started staying at ma house although they asked us what the 'arrangement' was at her house and the same rules applied....only I was still out in the loungeroom and she got my bed.

Defining moment for us was coming home late one afternoon and my room was s p o t l e s s (mum cleaned it).... Mel pointed to the cupboard where we keep our 'stuff' and I was horrified to find my 'raincoats' had been re-organised in dated order!!! :shock:

:shock: ooooohhhh

LaFoto · Feb 14, 2006

Xmetal, that is the funniest embarrassing story I have ever heard in my life!

Well, there was NO staying over at any boyfriend's nor his coming over to my house for as long as I still lived at home. It just was not to be had - or done. Never. I could spend the night at my best friend's house, or a weekend. But she had to be a girl. Other things were not even discussed. They WERE!

So when I started uni and moved out from home, things went all wrong for me and in only a little over a year later I ended up pregnant, marrying the father (wrongest decision of all my life) and undergoing a nasty divorce at 21. Not to be recommended, either! I just had never been taught to be responsible also for that part of my life...

Therefore I now say a little more freedom and most of all understanding is on the agenda for my own kids...

mentos_007 · Feb 14, 2006

LaFoto said:
Xmetal, that is the funniest embarrassing story I have ever heard in my life!

Well, there was NO staying over at any boyfriend's nor his coming over to my house for as long as I still lived at home. It just was not to be had - or done. Never. I could spend the night at my best friend's house, or a weekend. But she had to be a girl. Other things were not even discussed. They WERE!

So when I started uni and moved out from home, things went all wrong for me and in only a little over a year later I ended up pregnant, marrying the father (wrongest decision of all my life) and undergoing a nasty divorce at 21. Not to be recommended, either! I just had never been taught to be responsible also for that part of my life...

Therefore I now say a little more freedom and most of all understanding is on the agenda for my own kids...

hmm I was NEVER EVER allowed to spend a night at my friends' (girl) house. I have no idea why my parents let my go to London. maybe because I earned all the cash for the trip. It was an amazing adventure for me because I learned many things - how to be responsible for myself and for my friend too. but since then everything started again: be at home at 11 pm, and always somebody has to drive or walk me home. no partys overnight... even... new years eve... I had to be back before my parents came... so right now, when I want to go out with my bf, they keep on criticising him, and me. even when we are going for a pizza!

Xmetal · Feb 14, 2006

mentos_007 said:
hmm I was NEVER EVER allowed to spend a night at my friends' (girl) house. I have no idea why my parents let my go to London. maybe because I earned all the cash for the trip. It was an amazing adventure for me because I learned many things - how to be responsible for myself and for my friend too. but since then everything started again: be at home at 11 pm, and always somebody has to drive or walk me home. no partys overnight... even... new years eve... I had to be back before my parents came... so right now, when I want to go out with my bf, they keep on criticising him, and me. even when we are going for a pizza!

Don't think that it's because your olds are trying to keep you on a leash, they're just looking out for you.

I see it all the time when I go to my g/f's house: her sister has been hanging around with the wrong crowd so the parents stepped in and put an end to it by telling her she's not to go out at night and they confiscated her Mobile phone - drastic I know but if you met the dole-bludging, oxygen-thief she had for a boyfriend then you'd understand, he still hasn't worked out that he's not wanted around anymore. :roll:

When you're all grown up, married and have your own kids you'll look back and think maybe staying at home instead of getting drunk in a nightclub or dating that guy or socialising with that crowd was the better thing to do.

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mentos_007 · Feb 14, 2006

PFFFFF you won't belive that but... I've just got home from a Valentine's Day... date... and it is 9.30 pm... I had to be at this time so I wanted to avoid another confrontation....