I'm annoyed.

[Braineack]

This thread is still alive?

 

[tirediron]

Thats not the point she is making.The person new dam well they where going to summit there own photos as well and used her photo shot as a back up just in case, but wan not up front and honest.

Still can't see why she is annoyed, thicker skin needed

Men! Argh.

:greenpbl: yeah, and?

 

[kundalini]

This thread is still alive?

Seriously, that was my question also. This thread is taking most of the energy away from people posting photos for critique or asking questions about gear or trying to improve on their photography. It's just another B&G session.... and I don't Bride & Groom.

 

[Steve5D]

The thread's barely a day old, and some insightful and salient points have been made...

 

[gsgary]

Still can't see why she is annoyed, thicker skin needed

Men! Argh.

:greenpbl: yeah, and?

Men rule

 

[Juga]

I say 'YOLO!'

:mrgreen:

 

[kathyt]

Men! Argh.

:greenpbl: yeah, and?

Men rule

Girls rule, men drool!

 

[frommrstomommy]

Ugh, I'm way too sick with this stomach bug for this. lol Probably half the reason I'm so cranky. I'm just hurt that I thought she and I were going to be "friends" as we had gotten along well the two times I have taken a few shots for her since to help her out because the photographer she usually works with was out of town. I have been nothing but nice to her before any of this! Yes, I fully agree I could have certainly handled this better, I'll give you all that.

Men and women are wired much differently, and this thread really spotlights that, IMO.

 

[pgriz]

Girls rule, men drool!

Ugh. I hope it wasn't THAT obvious! :blushing:

But I think you meant "women" not girls. Women with some real life experience are usually much more interesting. Character. We're talking character here folks.

 

[nycphotography]

I think the lesson here is.... just not let silly trivial stuff get under your skin.

At the end of the day, you weren't harmed in any way. While there is only one truth, there are many many interpretions of the truth, and to be honest, "your feelings" is usually just your interpretation of the truth. Other interpretations may exist, and many more interpretations are possible if you look for them.

It's far easier to find interpretations of the truth that don't require your feelings to be hurt.... than it is to convince other people to change theirs! You don't control other people, you only have control over yourself (but only if you choose to exercise it).

Give her the benefit of the doubt, and move on. Be gracious. Be above all that.

Life's too short to waste it away fighting over trivial crap like you're on Real Housewives. They get paid to have all that drama. You don't. ;-)

 

[pixmedic]

you want a bunch of us TPF'ers to form a mob and go picket her house or something?
we could think of some catchy slogan to put on signs and chant in front of her house...
OR, we could all bombard that FB page with messages about how your picture was waaaay better than the crappy one the magazine posted.
I say, an attack on one TPF'er is an attack on us all!
we are with you mrsmommy! all the way!

 

[The_Traveler]

I think the lesson here is.... just not let silly trivial stuff get under your skin.

At the end of the day, you weren't harmed in any way. While there is only one truth, there are many many interpretions of the truth, and to be honest, "your feelings" is usually just your interpretation of the truth. Other interpretations may exist, and many more interpretations are possible if you look for them.

Give her the benefit of the doubt, and move on. Be gracious. Be above all that.

Life's too short to waste it away fighting over trivial crap like you're on Real Housewives. They get paid to have all that drama. You don't. ;-)

I think there is another lesson here.

There is you as a person and there is you as a professional.
How you react as a person harms or helps your reputation as a professional.
You feel bad as a person because you thought the relationship between you and this other woman implied some measure of communication that didn't happen.

That shouldn't affect how you as a professional should respond.
By mixing up the issues of the worth and priority of the photographs with your personal feelings, you are hurting yourself.

Would I hire you to take pictures after seeing this behavior?
Not a chance because you haven't sorted yourself out as a professional versus you as a person.

 

[frommrstomommy]

lol I guess its a good thing you would not likely ever be in my target market, eh?

Seriously though, I have admitted I could have certainly handled this better... why is there this burning desire to continue beating this dead horse?

 

[DarkShadow]

Once the horse is dead it's dead,bury it and move on to live another day. Here have a flower.:flower:

 

[ToorboCharge]

so this is what the wives argue about while we're at work or in the field..... jk jk. honestly just leave it as is, you as a marine wife know that theres a high percentage that are shady, and conniving. See it as some stated and from my point of view, 1)At least it Gave you experience 2) Never work for free time is money 3)Compose a contract 4) Lesson Learned 5)Get her Ninjapunched (NJP) lol..... 6) Let it go, there's more things to stress about esp if youre in the military or a military wife. and have a semper day