You probably already know this, but just a thought: Therapy isn't about having someone fix you, it's about learning tools from someone that might help you deal with the crap life throws at you a little better. With that in mind, I don't think it would be a bad idea to talk to someone about this. You never know what you might pick up. If you are in pain, and have touble letting it go, I don't see it as being much different than asking someone advice on a darkroom technique or somesuch that you are having troubles with. It's just a matter of finding someone who you are comfortable talking with. I have friends who have remained best of friends after they broke up, and I know others who can't deal with seeing each other. It all depends on the people and situation involved. There are no all-encompassing rules. I'm thinking that if you are breaking off at only small signs of trouble, you are doing so to protect yourself. This is not uncommon at all, and it's something I used to do all the time. It can be a tough thing to let go of. The problem is that it's really hard to develop a strong relationship with that approach. There will always be problems in relationships. The ones that last are not the ones that don't encounter challenges, but the ones where both people are willing to hold on despite the current pain, knowing that it's something they can work through. I'm not saying there there aren't legitimate reasons for breaking things off, but a lot of times we have knee-jerks reaction as a result of fear that can end thing prematurely. I've found for myself the key to preventing this is self-confidence. For right now, I think you should allow yourself to feel everything that you are feeling. There are no right or wrong emotions. They just are. The important thing is to experience them and then let them go. Once they've done their job, there is no need to store them away to pull out later. It's so common to tuck the anger, fear, or pain away as if it were a little treasure, to pull out later and experience it all over again. We wrap it up to try to keep it fresh, so that it doesn't lose it's edge. We feed it so that it doesn't lose it's strength. We hold on to it like it's worth something beyond the moment it was meant for. Storing away emotions so that they can be dealt with later is a normal human reaction, and it can even save our lives. We just have to remember not to make it a permanent mark. Once we feel it again, we need to let it go if we want to be able to move on. This might sound weird, but I use yawning to help me let go. It's a way for me to physically symbolize what I want to accomplish emotionally. When I think of something that brings up strong emotions in me, like fear, anger, or sadness, I visualize this emotion moving up through me and I let myself yawn. It seems to come naturally. I don't force the yawn, so sometimes I have to sit there a bit, but it usually comes. The trick is to not stiffle it, which I think is the reaction we've taught ourselves. As I yawn, I imagine letting go of the emotion and it moving up and out of my system, driving the yawn and following it out. Sometimes I yawn small, and sometimes it's so big that I sit there with my mouth strained open for what seems like ages because the emotion won't fit. Sometimes it takes days of thinking of the same thing to get it all out, but at least with each yawn it seems like there is less and less there. I've worked through some rather old and deeply embedded stuff doing this. Anyway, it may work for other people and it may not, but it's something to try. Regardless, we care for you manda, and are here to listen. You've got lots of big virtual hugs for you here.