Meeting the parents

[mentos_007]

yeah Iknow Alex that you start to love me already

 

[Alex_B]

yeah I know Alex that you start to love me already

:taped sh:

Should we really tell them already?? :heart:

 

[Mitica100]

well age is more than just a number, it represents a person developmental stages too, there.

Girls who look for older men are probably just looking for a father figure to take care of them, considering her father had problems and left.

That's speculating and generalizing, my friend. I know of many relationships and marriages of happy nature where age didn't play a role in their decision to be together. The old myth about the 'father figure' is just that. a myth. Sure, there are cases where a younger female will marry an older male just because the 'father figure' syndrome but to generalize that matter? No way I agree.

Regarding the relationship between one's age and his/her developmental stage, that is again a generalization. I have seen younger people being and acting very mature and vice-versa. For example, I had a part time worker in my coffee shop, he is 19 and he came from a dysfunctional family. Mom is about 37 (had him very young), pop is about 40. His mom is alcoholic, his father a druggie. He has brothers which are almost 'normal', exhibiting desires to try drugs and alcohol. He is basically raising the family, he is the most mature person in that family. Hard worker at 19, he was the manager of another coffee shop before working for me. He works in the mornings and at night he attends a community college. Well behaved (no alcohol or drugs of any kind, except caffeine) and helpful, I would not hesitate making him the manager of my shop when needed. I have seen others in their 50s being less mature than this guy.

Sorry to shoot holes in your statements.

 

[Alex_B]

That's speculating and generalizing, my friend. I know of many relationships and marriages of happy nature where age didn't play a role in their decision to be together. The old myth about the 'father figure' is just that. a myth. Sure, there are cases where a younger female will marry an older male just because the 'father figure' syndrome but to generalize that matter? No way I agree.

Regarding the relationship between one's age and his/her developmental stage, that is again a generalization. I have seen younger people being and acting very mature and vice-versa. For example, I had a part time worker in my coffee shop, he is 19 and he came from a dysfunctional family. Mom is about 37 (had him very young), pop is about 40. His mom is alcoholic, his father a druggie. He has brothers which are almost 'normal', exhibiting desires to try drugs and alcohol. He is basically raising the family, he is the most mature person in that family. Hard worker at 19, he was the manager of another coffee shop before working for me. He works in the mornings and at night he attends a community college. Well behaved (no alcohol or drugs of any kind, except caffeine) and helpful, I would not hesitate making him the manager of my shop when needed. I have seen others in their 50s being less mature than this guy.

Sorry to shoot holes in your statements.

I agree 100 %!

We all are individuals, everyone is different.

But people always like to generalise and have simple recipes ... just life is not simple

 

[mentos_007]

just belive in the impossible... and make it happen

 

[Hawaii Five-O]

oh I don't why I waste my time posting my opinion internet topics, there its always so pointless to do so. lol

 

[mentos_007]

oh I don't why I waste my time posting my opinion internet topics, there its always so pointless to do so. lol

hey it is not pointless... everyone is different and has his/her own priorities and things that are good/bad. it is good to confront own views with the public, to give you the real view of yourself. sometimes you can teach others something really important in life, sometimes others can point out that you might get some advantage from changing your opinions on certain topic. it is always good to talk and confront.

 

[Mitica100]

^^^Rock-n-Roll Mentos!!! Couldn't have put it better in words!

 

[Alex_B]

just belive in the impossible... and make it happen

OK, so see you on Monday night then, right? :mrgreen:

 

[Hawaii Five-O]

hey it is not pointless... everyone is different and has his/her own priorities and things that are good/bad. it is good to confront own views with the public, to give you the real view of yourself. sometimes you can teach others something really important in life, sometimes others can point out that you might get some advantage from changing your opinions on certain topic. it is always good to talk and confront.

Well on an interent forum,posting an opinion other than about someones photo or what I like about the olympics, or what computer I think is really good, is kind of pointless. Like posting an opinion about a persnal matter or politics.

Off of the internet those opinions are important, but they just don't have the same value on the net.

 

[LeroyLion]

Well on an interent forum,posting an opinion other than about someones photo or what I like about the olympics, or what computer I think is really good, is kind of pointless. Like posting an opinion about a persnal matter or politics.

Off of the internet those opinions are important, but they just don't have the same value on the net.

I wholeheartedly agree, even if it is pointless to do so.

 

[Corry]

Well on an interent forum,posting an opinion other than about someones photo or what I like about the olympics, or what computer I think is really good, is kind of pointless. Like posting an opinion about a persnal matter or politics.

Off of the internet those opinions are important, but they just don't have the same value on the net.

I think you're probably totally right, and I probably shouldn't have said anything in the first place.

For instance, it doesn't matter what anyone here says, I won't be changing my opinion that someone who isn't far from 30 shoudn't be dating someone who is still technically and legally a child.

 

[Battou]

oh I don't why I waste my time posting my opinion internet topics, there its always so pointless to do so. lol

Well on an interent forum,posting an opinion other than about someones photo or what I like about the olympics, or what computer I think is really good, is kind of pointless. Like posting an opinion about a persnal matter or politics.

Off of the internet those opinions are important, but they just don't have the same value on the net.

Wether a point is made or broken is in the eye of it's intended target. Be it IRL or on the internet. However a point based on oppinion will ultamately fail if the intended target is not of the same oppinion. That witch is important as it pertains to train of thought is equally important on the net and IRL, no one holds priority over the other. That said, Even if me you and Corry where sitting face to face IRL discussing this, the results would have been the same.

Making an oppinion known is not pointless in any way. I've read and taken from every oppinion posted here giving them purpose. As I said before, I will not argue the validity of your arguement, Human beings are too diverse in almost every way so the fact the fact that our oppinions differ is truly meaningless.

Someone once said "War does not deturmine those who are right, only those who are left", I've always taken the meaning of this as arguing as to what beliefs are "Correct" is pointless, as it's a lose/lose situation. You have the right to an oppinion as have I and attempting to change someone elses oppinion is an attempt at violating their rights. It is in this that the illusion that making ones oppinion known is pointless is created. Created because so many feel the need to defend their beliefs, this arguement begins with out fail, It is sad but true. As far as I am concerned oppinions are not pointless untill they become defended, you do not have to defend your oppinion.



That said, I did not post this seeking the approval of forum members here, merely a moment of stress related emotional weekness, more commonly known as an Emo thread. Stress brought on by the fear I was violating the trust of a friend. So many factors went into my decision to go ahead and presue this, more so than I could ever explain. Even then, I thought I had confronted that issue, but now that I look back I merely rationalized it with what was actually a pretty childish thought.

Now that the originally posted situation has played it self out I see that it is that very trust that is allowing this to happen. It's actually pushing this relationship along at alarming speeds, so much so that I have to make a consious effort to slow it down, so as to not get my self in a world of ****.

Now all I have to worry about is my own ability to maintain my composure. Under normal circumstances I can maintain my self well. However I've been under a lot of stress over the past few years, getting worse over the last year resulting in two total losses of composure and countless minor ones in the last six months. Over this past five days so much stress has been lifted from my shoulders it ain't funny and it continues to become easier to bare. I'm seeing things more clearly now and I am confident I can maintain my composure now, completely negating my secondary consern.

Worst case scenario, in the event this does not work out, we will both take something from it. Best case scenario, we have children, get old and die. I don't regret the decision.

 

[JohnMF]

...Best case scenario, we have children, get old and die.

well you have a ten year head start on her there! hehe

 

[sarallyn]

well you have a ten year head start on her there! hehe

sorry, that made me laugh.


But seriously -- approval of parents is overrated in my opinion. Hop on a motorcycle, get the girl on the back, and drive into the sunset. And by sunset I mean Canada, because everyone knows Canada is pretty cool.