Battou you are your own worst enemy - this might sound harsh but I do mean that.
You have to break this mental view that you have with yourself and your hobby otherwise you will only serve to make yourself miserable - belive me I have seen this too many times! You work with children do you not? Well don't you offer support and encouragment to them - help them to choose the right path and so on and keep them enthusiastic?
Well you are past that level of a child so things are harder - you have to find that for yourself now - others can help, but your your own boss now and you have to find that in yourself otherwise the words and thoughts of others won't be able to help you (As much as others might wish to do so).
I honestly don't want to see you destroy yourself - its painfull but I can't help you out of this - I can offer words of support and encouragement and I can give my advice on your photography (as others can) but in the end you have to sitdown - look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself that determination. Tell yourself that your not a waste of space - that you CAN and you WILL!
On the contrary, acknowledging ones own shortcummings is the first step to pushing the boundries and expanding. Sitting in a bubble of arrogents is not my way, there will always be someone more skilled and where there is one there is always another. I can accept that I am not the best there is or ever has been, also that nor will I ever be.
If I believe that I am better than the person in front of me, I will fail reguardless of any encouragement provided from the outside. If I believe that everyone around me is better than I, then I have no choice but to improve or die trying. Success can only be had by seeing the problem and fixing it. Right now the problem is that I carry my camera, take it to my face, focus and hit the button, nothing more, nothing less. It's like walking into a sword fight knowing nothing but a thrust, It might work but chances are that it won't. The Honjo Masamune won't help you if all you can do is poke with it, a 400mm lens won't help if I don't bother to get close enough to compose the for subject or think about the way I want to photograph it.
I know that I am not a waste of space, but if I believe that what I am doing is sufficient and don't bother looking for faults. I will continue to allow my self to slide backwards inevetably becomming that waste of space. One enjoys their hobbies most when they succeed, so why set your self up for failure by believing every shot is an award winner, when you can know every shot sucks only to find you got more than a handful of better than anticipated images hidden in the mist and know how you did it. When you can brush off major setbacks as standard, the shots that are remotely close to holding a candle to those around you will hold that much more value to you and be a small success in and of them self wile the ones that suck can merely be tossed in the garbage can. Many small successes can easily hold one over long enough to overcome any major fault resulting in repeted failure like the one I have discovered in my own shooting habits. A couple weeks ago I was telling you about an inccodent with a flight of hawks, nearly half a dozen of them no more than fifty feet over my head, remember? I was so excited, have you ever seen a man with a manual advance film body with a manual focus prime telephoto lens on a teleconverter burst shooting straight into the air at nearly five FPS? Well, I had fun trying but sh
it happens. I know what went wrong, toss'em in the can and move on to the next set. What is done is done and that part of the past is now complete, If I sit there and dwell on the fact I got so excited in the heat of the moment I forgot to change my aperture, I will have completely forsaken the fun I had pointing a huge peice of glass at the sky and running in circles like a child. However, continuing to make the same mistake over and over again will take all the fun out of it. In the end isn't that what a hobby is all about, Something one finds fun to do to occupy time. Determination is one thing I have in spades, my first post in this thread was merely a reflection of that determination. I refuse to truly suck at anything I do. I am Human, I will make mistakes so I don't look at careless mistakes as major failures and/or a waste of time, but ignoring the mistakes will only serve to take away any chance of improvement. I see a flaw in my habits, I can and will fix it, failure is not an option.
A little fact about me that you don't know, I was destroyed once. A false accusation and a lawyer who was afraid to fight a battle he felt I could not win began a chain of events that resulted in my lacking a highschool diploma, lacking a drivers licence, having been homeless and more. This all impacted my ability to accuire employment even to this day. I'm a child care provider making a measly $1.98 an hour with no insurance, or job security living in New York state, because it's all I could get without that little peice of paper that sais I attended school. I may have a GED now but it was of no use and I ended up retaking this position after filling out countless applications a couple years ago when their mother threw her husband out. It is that mental view that I have with myself, my life and my hobbies that has kept me alive, out of prison, got a roof over my head, food on my table and the ability to partake in a hobby as expencive photography is. That ideaology can not destroy me, it made me who I am and provides me with ample reason to live. Not everyone can live this way, but I know of no other way. If I am to stop believing that I am not as good as people think I am, you may as well cut me down where I stand. I would very quickly become complacent and worthless with nothing to achieve and no reason to achieve it, such a meaningless existance.