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Help.. Short version: I want to become a semi-pro, just bought my first digital SLR, my husband could care less about photography and despises the fact that I spend $550 (on ebay) for the canon digital rebel xti, which he views as frivolous and impulsive. Yet money came from my parents. Huge fight and bawling my eyes out, don't know where to go from here.. Skip the long version if you want, but please reply with suggestions...
Long version:
I've always admired photography, and have always loved taking pictures. I've been wanting to upgrade to a digital SLR for more than a year, and for months I've been looking at options, price/quality comparisons, etc, everything you'd expect from a person wanting to pursue a new hobby who wants to make sure they get a good product at a good price.
When my point-and-shoot was damaged recently early last month (lens broken during a playful fight with my husband teasing me about taking my camera everywhere), I thought it could be a good opportunity to switch to an entry-level SLR, instead of getting just another point-and-shoot that takes crappy pictures and well, since this is a photography forum I know you know what I'm talking about.
When I first broached the subject with him it took forever to convince my husband to approve.. as much as I love photography and taking photos, my husband would never even take/look at a photo unless he had to. Special occasions/ trips/ funny moments etc, he never feels the need to take photographs or having photographs around.
After a long and stressful talk, he agreed to let me buy an SLR - silly thing is, I'm requesting it as a Christmas present from my parents, so it won't even come from *our* money. Since then it's been a few weeks, in which I took the time to look at a bunch of SLRs, weighted in various options, practically went crazy over deciding what to get.
I've been sort of partial to the Canon Digital Rebel XT (350d) for a while, but ultimately decided on the XTi (400d) for a variety of reasons, including the dust-reduction feature since I'm planning for a lot of outdoors shooting. Anyway... I'll mention again that it's settled with my parents that they will reimburse me for this as a Christmas present (I'm still in my last year of grad school and not yet making money, sadly).
For the last few weeks I've just been going crazy with indecisions, Canon vs Nikon, Digital Rebel vs d70 etc, all the stuff a noobie gets through. Only thing that I obsessed way too much over everything, and even he, my husband, told me to just pick one and get it, rather than obsessing endlessly. So when today I finally settled for the Digital Rebel XTi and got it brand new from ebay with a bunch of other accessories for around $550 (body + standard lens + memory card + batteries/charger + strap + cables), I was incredibly excited and couldn't wait to share it with my husband.. I call him, he's happy to hear that I've made a decision, but when he hears that I bought it already on ebay and that it cost $550 he just went crazy and wouldn't talk to me.. I ask you this, is $550 a lot for a digital SLR?? We all know it isn't, but yet he thought it would be somewhere around $350.. so he would keep hanging up on me and not answer me.. Finally he called me back after hearing my messages, and in the end he said he loves me and that's most important, even though he dislikes photography and everything that's related to it. I'm of course happy that he's talking to me again, but at the same time also feel horrible and misunderstood, and also unsure about why we even had this fight, since the money for the camera would come from my parents.
It's just so hard with him disapproving so much of photography. What if I will want to get a new lens in the future? What if I will want different accessories? I wanted to be honest with him rather than just buy the thing and tell him it was $300, even though it wasn't his/our money but a present from my parents. But with such a strong reaction it really makes me want to be less open in the future. You would think that since you are doing the right thing by telling the truth, everything should be fine?
Help.. huge cultural/personality clash.. You really feel invalidated as a person when your loved one could care less about your hobby..
Did you ever have/do you currently have a significant other that disapproves so much of your hobby? And how do you go about it? Any suggestions are most welcome..
At any rate thanks for reading this, it really helps pouring yourself out..
Long version:
I've always admired photography, and have always loved taking pictures. I've been wanting to upgrade to a digital SLR for more than a year, and for months I've been looking at options, price/quality comparisons, etc, everything you'd expect from a person wanting to pursue a new hobby who wants to make sure they get a good product at a good price.
When my point-and-shoot was damaged recently early last month (lens broken during a playful fight with my husband teasing me about taking my camera everywhere), I thought it could be a good opportunity to switch to an entry-level SLR, instead of getting just another point-and-shoot that takes crappy pictures and well, since this is a photography forum I know you know what I'm talking about.
When I first broached the subject with him it took forever to convince my husband to approve.. as much as I love photography and taking photos, my husband would never even take/look at a photo unless he had to. Special occasions/ trips/ funny moments etc, he never feels the need to take photographs or having photographs around.
After a long and stressful talk, he agreed to let me buy an SLR - silly thing is, I'm requesting it as a Christmas present from my parents, so it won't even come from *our* money. Since then it's been a few weeks, in which I took the time to look at a bunch of SLRs, weighted in various options, practically went crazy over deciding what to get.
I've been sort of partial to the Canon Digital Rebel XT (350d) for a while, but ultimately decided on the XTi (400d) for a variety of reasons, including the dust-reduction feature since I'm planning for a lot of outdoors shooting. Anyway... I'll mention again that it's settled with my parents that they will reimburse me for this as a Christmas present (I'm still in my last year of grad school and not yet making money, sadly).
For the last few weeks I've just been going crazy with indecisions, Canon vs Nikon, Digital Rebel vs d70 etc, all the stuff a noobie gets through. Only thing that I obsessed way too much over everything, and even he, my husband, told me to just pick one and get it, rather than obsessing endlessly. So when today I finally settled for the Digital Rebel XTi and got it brand new from ebay with a bunch of other accessories for around $550 (body + standard lens + memory card + batteries/charger + strap + cables), I was incredibly excited and couldn't wait to share it with my husband.. I call him, he's happy to hear that I've made a decision, but when he hears that I bought it already on ebay and that it cost $550 he just went crazy and wouldn't talk to me.. I ask you this, is $550 a lot for a digital SLR?? We all know it isn't, but yet he thought it would be somewhere around $350.. so he would keep hanging up on me and not answer me.. Finally he called me back after hearing my messages, and in the end he said he loves me and that's most important, even though he dislikes photography and everything that's related to it. I'm of course happy that he's talking to me again, but at the same time also feel horrible and misunderstood, and also unsure about why we even had this fight, since the money for the camera would come from my parents.
It's just so hard with him disapproving so much of photography. What if I will want to get a new lens in the future? What if I will want different accessories? I wanted to be honest with him rather than just buy the thing and tell him it was $300, even though it wasn't his/our money but a present from my parents. But with such a strong reaction it really makes me want to be less open in the future. You would think that since you are doing the right thing by telling the truth, everything should be fine?
Help.. huge cultural/personality clash.. You really feel invalidated as a person when your loved one could care less about your hobby..
Did you ever have/do you currently have a significant other that disapproves so much of your hobby? And how do you go about it? Any suggestions are most welcome..
At any rate thanks for reading this, it really helps pouring yourself out..