Examples of things that people think are personal attacks but are not...
- "Your picture is crap."
- "I don't like what you've done here."
- "Vignettes are stupid."
- "Your avatar is ridiculous."
THESE are personal attacks:
- "You suck."
- "You smell."
- "You're a ****ty photographer."
- "You're an idiot."
Very big difference.
None of the above really bothers me. Well maybe if someone said that I smelled I might be bothered.
Honestly though, I'm a person who likes the idea of speaking straight to someone even if that means being harsh. If I suck I want to know. I don't want to be coddled. Being coddled does me no good.
I'm sure I have made people think or feel,
- "Your picture is crap."
- "I don't like what you've done here."
- "Vignettes are stupid."
- "Your avatar is ridiculous."
and people may not have said it to me but, I'm sure some may also think "I suck, am an idiot, or a ****ty photographer" I'm okay with being told that. I have often thought about putting that in my signature just so people know it. It only pushes me to try harder to succeed.
I should note that if someone is going to call me out though, the least they could do is explain how I could improve. I don't think that is too much to ask.