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First, I love that e.rose not only put on her duckface, but put a mustache on to boot.
Second, I love that overread slipped in that remark about the cat licking his fingers and no one was horrified.
Third...
To the OP... think a bit about what you're asking... you're basically asking that there be some cage that we put certain members in to keep them away from other members. To this I have to ask you... who judges who goes in the cage? And how do you judge it?
Yeah, there is no question that some people can be harsh at times... some folks more often than others. I, myself, am occasionally pretty rough with folks when either I think they need a dose of reality, or I just happen to be in a bitchy mood. It happens. Do I go in the cage? I mean, perhaps I do, but something tells me I probably wasn't on your list... and to be honest, if >I< were to be the judge of who would go in the cage, I would almost definitely put me in it.
So then there's the question of what you're costing yourself by putting those people away. Some of the grouchier people on here also happen to be the ones who have REAL knowledge in their heads and are actually willing to share it. In fact, some of the most knowledgeable people on TPF in the past were the most cruel. If you box them away just because they happen to be a little mean, you're going to miss out on a lot.
In the end, honestly... I think you and anyone else need to either get over it or vote with your feet. This is the internet and the internet isn't always the kindest place. If you get a little butthurt now and again... well... maybe it's good for you. Work on developing a thicker skin, learn how to filter out the "meanness" of the remarks, and look to the core of what people are trying to share with you.
IF they are being outright abusive, well, then just report it... or block them... in time these things have a way of working themselves out. Very few people who are TRULY awful ever last here more than 3-6 months.
Second, I love that overread slipped in that remark about the cat licking his fingers and no one was horrified.
Third...
To the OP... think a bit about what you're asking... you're basically asking that there be some cage that we put certain members in to keep them away from other members. To this I have to ask you... who judges who goes in the cage? And how do you judge it?
Yeah, there is no question that some people can be harsh at times... some folks more often than others. I, myself, am occasionally pretty rough with folks when either I think they need a dose of reality, or I just happen to be in a bitchy mood. It happens. Do I go in the cage? I mean, perhaps I do, but something tells me I probably wasn't on your list... and to be honest, if >I< were to be the judge of who would go in the cage, I would almost definitely put me in it.
So then there's the question of what you're costing yourself by putting those people away. Some of the grouchier people on here also happen to be the ones who have REAL knowledge in their heads and are actually willing to share it. In fact, some of the most knowledgeable people on TPF in the past were the most cruel. If you box them away just because they happen to be a little mean, you're going to miss out on a lot.
In the end, honestly... I think you and anyone else need to either get over it or vote with your feet. This is the internet and the internet isn't always the kindest place. If you get a little butthurt now and again... well... maybe it's good for you. Work on developing a thicker skin, learn how to filter out the "meanness" of the remarks, and look to the core of what people are trying to share with you.
IF they are being outright abusive, well, then just report it... or block them... in time these things have a way of working themselves out. Very few people who are TRULY awful ever last here more than 3-6 months.
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