Typical - a thread about women and men take it over
I think weight is one of those things that shouldn't be seen as a "beauty" issue but more of a health issue.
I am tired of this whole "fat shaming" is a bad thing trend. No it's unhealthy to be 100lbs overweight. You aren't fabulous you are going to die young but not before you drive up the healthcare costs.
To a point, you are correct. Carrying around a hundred extra pounds is going to cause health problems. It's a real problem and it's getting worse, so it needs to be addressed. It's not right to belittle someone for being that overweight and to treat the person poorly, but at the same time, it might be dangerous to ignore the real health issues that can come from being severely obese.
What bothers me (and this is directed in general, not at runnah) is when the shaming is directed at people who may be a little overweight but are still well within the realm of real, healthy, normal size and shape. There are people who are overweight who are perfectly healthy, and yet still deal with the fat shaming. Yet, a "skinny" person can be very unhealthy but never has to deal with society who is "just concerned about your health, dear!"
A normal sized, healthy model is considered "plus-sized." WTF is up with that? Look at all the photoshopping that goes into a typical picture of any woman these days. Even women who are considered beautiful and in shape...it's never good enough.
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What's very annoying to me is not just this, but all the campaigns, like the stuff Dove is putting out, to help women build their self-esteem. Even those are focused ONLY on helping us feel beautiful. Apparently, this is the only way to feel good about ourselves. So what if they are "redefining" beautiful so that we can all feel included? They're still telling me that the only thing that matters is how I feel about my appearance and accepting that I might not fit the media standard, but damnit, I'm still beeee-yoooooo-tiful! Because nothing else seems to matter.
What if I don't give four flying f***s about whether or not I'm beautiful? Can't I gain my self-esteem from my accomplishments, intelligence, and principles, from my relationships with people who love and accept me no matter how I feel about my appearance?
I'm just so over it.
(Edited to clarify a few ideas...)