women's beauty perception trough time

[limr30 3]

Here's a model who is a size 8 - EIGHT - and that is still not skinny or beautiful enough.

Model Blasts the Company That Slimmed Her Body With Photoshop | TakePart

If someone who is a size eight is complaining about the body image that is being set as a standard of beauty, can you imagine how women who are size 12, 14, or 16 feel? Women who may be perfectly healthy but will never ever fit the standard.

Even if comments aren't directed specifically to her, she can still be made to feel shamed. Sometimes a celebrity gains weight or there are unflattering pictures of that person in the media, and horrible things are said about her appearance. Yes, it happens to men sometimes too, but it's far more likely to be a woman who is the target of the scorn. Then, the real-life women hear and read these comments and think, "She looks like me or better than me and that's what they are saying about her...what are people saying about me?"

 

[mishele]

It's all going to be alright. Just go eat a twinkie.

 

[bentcountershaft]

What if I don't give four flying f***s about whether or not I'm beautiful? Can't I gain my self-esteem from my accomplishments, intelligence, and principles, from my relationships with people who love and accept me no matter how I feel about my appearance?

I'm just so over it.

To me, this is the only rational response to it. Ignore them and if you can ignore any urge you may have to buy their products. Other than that I don't know what else can really be done. Try to forget that the people purporting these ideas are people at all, because they hardly qualify. They certainly don't see us as people, only a consumers. The oldest marketing trick in the book is to make sales based on envy. Thousands of years later and we're still falling for it.

 

[runnah]

I just don't want people to confuse the issue of physical health with mental health. Sure it may suck to be told you are orca fat, but getting a foot cut off from diabetes is no picnic either.

 

[mmaria]

Confession time and I think most guys are right there with me on this. It's very hard not to but most time when seeing a women the first thought is "would i do her?".
Chances are I am just a sexual deviant but I think I am not alone in this.

We are all dumb animals. Women want safety and to be provided for, men want to screw. Pretty damn simple.

I don't know why this is a "confession." What you said here is a fact and the fact is also that you guys would do 98% of women, but of course, it's just because you're so primitive. What's stopping you to "do" almost every women you meet?

It's the true that we all react instinctively first and sometimes we won't even "know/recognize" why are we reacting/are attracted to a certain person that doesn't fit our beauty standards. It's just in our nature...
Of course...woman chooses... and she choses based on which male can give her the best possible genetic combination for her descendents. A woman will make her choice within just 10 seconds. Her decision will be based on lots of criterias which you guys would never understand ok... maybe one, smell-completely primitive but so crucial.

I am a woman (if you didn't realise so far ) and I "confess" also that the first thing that comes to my mind when I meet a guy is: "Would I do him?" So what!!?
I'll simply note: "No, no, no, no, no, no,...., no no, yes, no, no, no...., no... oh yes and with a pleasure!" and that's it, I'll move on and have a normal interaction with that person.

It's a real shame that, even though we are a lot smarter than you guys, we let ourselves to be "toys" made by media and completely accepted that we should all look like "those girls." I hate, hate those "duck and fish" selfies, breasts all over the place, tons of makeup and such...

As for me personally, I grew up thinking how ugly I was and no man will ever want me unless I become smart, intelligent and funny. Till this day I think that every man ever, who was attracted to me, wasn't attracted because of my appearance, but because of my personality. Objectively speaking I was never that ugly that I couldn't attract a guy, never had issues with my weight and never had two heads, but also, I never fitted in "media's beauty standard."

When I see an overweight person, I'll think: "What are the problems she/he have?" When I see some silicon lips and boobs, I don't have to ask myself about their problems, I know what their problem is.

And, I forgot to ask... WTF is "poon"!!?

 

[mmaria]

another one

 

[pgriz]

Maybe the "doing him/her" is a phase people pass through. I'll admit to being rather randy when I was younger, but even then I was attracted to intelligent women with the ability to have an interesting conversation and have a good laugh.

Maria, replace the second "o" by "r". An art form that celebrates superficiality.

 

[mmaria]

Maybe the "doing him/her" is a phase people pass through. I'll admit to being rather randy when I was younger, but even then I was attracted to intelligent women with the ability to have an interesting conversation and have a good laugh.

I don't think "doing him/her thought" is a phase, but I don't also think that people spend lots of time thinking about it. That thought lasts less than a second and from all information I got, it happen to all of us (it's a primitive, instinctively part of a human being-pardon my English, I have no proper words for what I'm trying to say), just someone is more conscious about it than someone else.
That's just a thought, not something we act on, after all, we're humans.

And of course, intelligent man/woman will always be attracted to intelligent man/woman.

Maria, replace the second "o" by "r". An art form that celebrates superficiality.

I know, I know Paul. I was just kidding, that's why I added a winkey

 

[pgriz]

See, that's the problem with text-only messaging. You just don't get the body language part. And I'm lousy at reading in between the lines of text.

 

[mmaria]

See, that's the problem with text-only messaging. You just don't get the body language part. And I'm lousy at reading in between the lines of text.

agree on everything except that you're lousy at anything

 

[pgriz]

Maria, you're being kind, but thank you. However, you haven't had the benefit of my wife's opinion which is that sometimes I'm completely tone-deaf when it comes to understanding nuance. Fortunately, she's usually there to assist me when I completely misread the situation, and pull me out of what otherwise would be a very uncomfortable place. And there are times when the situation is reversed, and she gets something wrong and I help smooth the waters. But she cleans up my messes at least ten times more frequently than the other way around.

 

[mmaria]

Paul, I don't worry about you at all, I knew you would understand, but, if YOU didn't get what I was trying to tell, then I don't want to even imagine what others were thinking!

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[bribrius]

I don't get it.

I just want to get off. How hard is that?
this is all too complicated. This that self image thing again?
I admit, I do clean the wax out of my ears. I expect a woman to do the same.
weight, well....
if you cant be on top, well there is a problem. bedroom takes some health. it is natural to be attracted to health.

I don't like the ones that are too thin though. NOthing but bones. like laying with a board.
skin softness is a huge thing. And eyes and voice. Really nothing like the touch of a woman, and touching a woman, feeling the softness and running the fingers along skin. The smell.
But really, attitude makes a huge difference too.
But I suppose, if you are dog, well the rest don't matter. woof.

people usually end up with about their class, sometimes some accidently get placed from different classes but the socio economic and attractive puzzle might be part of Darwinism and hard to resist. It is all about the mating.
But oh, is the mating fun now isn't it.

Much is about the connection. That sexual tension, connection. And later release.
Then again, there are women that might only be a five physically, but they got that "look" and sensualness it drives them up, up, up, higher. where a 9 physically can actually be unattractive, no look, no sensuality, bad attitude. Even smell plays a part.

what was this about again?

 

[JacaRanda]

My sense of what is attractive is all over the place. If it looks good then dammit it looks good. Getting to know what looks good could totally blow the attractiveness or in some cases make attractive.

Damn she's fine or damn look at those jeans. 2 seconds after that it's back to reality.




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[bribrius]

.....is still thinking about runnah and maria and that the first thing they think of with everyone they meet is if they would have sex with them.


huh.......

oddly enough, that doesn't cross my mind. not sure if I am rare or what but It really doesn't occur to me (could be too many years of marriage)